He's way too overprotective.

[Leona778]

My boyfriend is a bit older than me and he lives in New Zealand, we're getting really close to our 1 year anniversary but he's really bossy and protective when it comes to me going out with my friends or drinking too much alcohol when I'm out. I've already told him about it and he has gotten a bit better but he still goes overboard whenever I do anything.

[Hollyj]

You need to provide more info.

[MissCanuck]

This sounds more controlling than protective.

 

What do you mean exactly when you say he goes "overboard"? Also, have you met in person, and how old are you both?

[SkellyWoozle]

Can you tell us a bit more, plz?

[pippy longstocking]

the op posted this thread at the same time ..so here is more info

 

 

[Capricorn3]

He sounds controlling. Also, the age difference (20 and 33) is showing. He seems more like a controlling father figure, treating you like a child. I think you two are on completely different pages in life and this is just the beginning of the red flags you should be taking heed of. Incompatible comes to mind.