need some help..

[Wetash]

my ex bf messaged and asked me if i wanted to get lunch and talk normally..

i know this means he is open to friendship for sure.

but is there a chance that he could be giving us another chance?

how am I supposed to deal with this situation ?

i still do like him.

[Cthun]

Was it him who broke up with you?

[jmann45]

Just go, and act no more than a friend. Watch him and see how he acts. If he acts no more than a friend, then that answers your question. I woudnt be surprised if he wants to only be friends to make himself feel less guilty of the breakup (if he is the one who dumped you)

[TeaLeaf1234]

The right things will be said at the right time. If he wants to pursue things, he will let you know.

[SooSad33]

my ex bf messaged and asked me if i wanted to get lunch and talk normally..

i know this means he is open to friendship for sure.

but is there a chance that he could be giving us another chance?

how am I supposed to deal with this situation ?

i still do like him.

 

Get lunch & talk normally.. does not mean 'get back together'. Are YOU okay with this?

Can you handle seeing him again and NOT flipping out emotionally? or risk having your heart broken again?

 

Just because we miss them or like them, does not mean it's a good idea to go back there....

 

Not sure the story of how long together.. how long you've been broken up, etc?

 

Re: Friendship? We can't be a friend, until all of those 'feelings' are gone.

[Wiseman2]

It depends on what you want, not on what he wants. He may just want fwb, a quick hook-up or whatever. Be clear on what you want, whether it's getting back together or just being friends.

[Wetash]

Thank you. I do want to get back with him..

if there is a chance that that would happen by meeting him , I dont want to ruin it.

However I dont want to be the one trying to make it work anymore if he doesnt.

I also dont want to be just friends anymore as it would mess me up.

If he wants to do something about it, he would let me know? or should I sit around and decipher his actions, as generally he doesnt voice out his feelings directly...

[Wiseman2]

If you have to decipher/guess about his motives/intentions then that's your answer. Unless he spells out loud and clear that he wants a relationship...then it's safe to assume he's keeping you around as back-up, fwb and lets you "fill in" the relationship part with your imagination.