"Dating" my best friend .

[huirhg]

Hey so any input would be greatly appreciated ! I realised I liked my guy best friend a few weeks ago , long story short we kissed and I went on a date to his house..

The only thing is that I'm really nervous that I'll lose him as a friend if things don't work out and I'm over analysing everything.

For instance when I got home from his house I messaged him saying thanks or whatever and he said no problem.We hadnt arranged another date so Then I thought he wasn't interested and it might be a friend with benefits thing . I stupidly called him at like 1.a my to ask cause I didn't want to be just Fwb.

He was super sweet about it and said that he liked hanging out but didn't want to jump right into a relationship so just wanted to see how I goes.I feel so stupid for calling now and am over thinking that !

Now I'm so embarrassed and just want some advice as to how to slow down , stop over thinking and just date a friend ?

Thanks

[Dottieflanogon]

Personally, it wouldn't bother me unless I had literally grown up with them (that would be like dating a brother). I'd give it a shot. On the other hand, I will say that I don't really see myself being a platonic friend with someone and forming a relationship without having liked them as more than friends from the start (if that makes sense).

 

I don't see the point of throwing up a wall if attraction is present on both sides. Sometimes, the line between friendship and the early stages of dating isn't all that marked, actually. Every situation is different.

 

I will say the longer the time lapse between becoming good friends and starting to date, the riskier the situation.

[mhowe]

Dating isn't having sex. Dating is dating, deciding to be exclusive and then having sex.

 

You have not only set a precedent that a date is having sex at his house instead of going out, but then calling at 1am to have a talk. To slow it down....try having dates outside of the bedroom.