DarrenG1983 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 So, I have got through 7 days of cold turkey from my ex, who cheated on me and ripped my heart out. Ive deleted everything that reminds me of her, including every photo. I have lots of photos we have taken over the last 4 years of her on our travels. Should I send them to a mutual friend for her, or shall I just delete them? I have them on a zip file I used to extract from FB. Would appreciate some advise. Darren Link to comment
melancholic_too Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Personally... I deleted everything. I removed him from my life. I never even considered giving them to him. I even had him return things just so I could then throw them away. It helped me to try and remove him, to try and remove every memory and reminder. She didn't respect you by cheating. I wouldn't get the photos to her..no way. Link to comment
DarrenG1983 Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 Thanks . Going to delete them now. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Me too! I dumped every memory of my ex. Link to comment
SirCheese Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I'd give them to a friend - Make sure the friend won't give them for a long, long time. No matter how much you are hurting now, you'll want those memories in future when it doesn't hurt anymore. Link to comment
melancholic_too Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I'd give them to a friend - Make sure the friend won't give them for a long, long time. No matter how much you are hurting now, you'll want those memories in future when it doesn't hurt anymore. Why? I barely have any mementos of even my marriage/wedding. And that one ended rather civil for both parties (he's happily remarried and I am actually happy for him). I initially kept them for a while, but really. Why? I eventually saved a couple of photos of me and my parents at the wedding and discarded the rest. It was not painful, but just no longer has the meaning it did before. I think if you've been betrayed and cheated on you may not consider the memories good ones. I don't like to be reminded of people who have brought hurt to my life. But like it said, that is me personally. If you maybe broke up civilly (is that a word?) and the image of the person doesn't bring up intense pain, yes, keep the photos. Tine Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 It would be a tougher question if she didn't cheat on you. Absolutely delete them and don't look back. Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Delete them and stay NC. You don't need the reminders. Link to comment
DarrenG1983 Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 Thanks guys. What she did was unforgivable, but I still crave to see her and be with her. Its been 1 week now, I have got rid off every photo and item that reminds me of her so hopefully things will be looking up soon. Link to comment
YouCanDeleteThisAccount Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 It wouldn't have been worth trying to return them anyway. Right now they are likely meaningless to her and she would have thrown them away. And if she threw you away like a piece of trash, then just dissappear for good. One you throw something away, you never see it again so now you need to mentally throw her out as well, including anything that keeps you hooked in. Good luck. Link to comment
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