Trust Problems Holding Us Back

[kool_kid_86]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for several months and we both love each other very much. Unfortunately, our relationship might not last due to trust problems. I cheated on my very first girlfriend, and my girlfriend is very scared that I would cheat on her. In addition, when we were first started dating I kept on talking about my ex's which made my girlfriend feel very uneasy. Her brain keeps on telling her that I will not be a faithful boyfriend, but her heart loves me very much. I know in my heart that I love my girlfriend very much and that I will remain faithful by her side indefinitely.

 

My question is: is there anything I can do to help gain back the trust that is lost? Are there any discussions that my girlfriend and I should have so that we can overcome this challenge together?

[shellyf62]

How does your gf know you cheated on your first gf?

Why did you keep talking about exs in front of her?

[kool_kid_86]

How does your gf know you cheated on your first gf?

Why did you keep talking about exs in front of her?

 

I told my gf about my first gf.

 

I kept talking about my exs because I wanted her to know my entire history.

[catfeeder]

I told my gf about my first gf.

 

I kept talking about my exs because I wanted her to know my entire history.

 

You're learning why that's not a brilliant idea. Going forward, keep your past in the past.

[shellyf62]

If someone told me that they had cheated on a past gf/bf I would not stay with them. If they could cheat on others they could certainly cheat on me.

I feel sorry for your gf. As Catfeeder said, next time don't spill your whole history. Some things are better kept to yourself.

[Lester]

The dating period is the time to let it all hang out there.

 

Did you commit yourself to the first girlfriend? If so, then it was a cheat.

If not, and your were a typical young first timers, it was just a flub.

 

What goes for you also goes for the new girl.