Still single at 36!!

[Tinydance]

I think your trouble may be the lack of confidence...You have to believe in yourself more and that will come accross. Have you tried OK cupid? That's a very good comprehensive dating web site that is completely free. The fact that women do go on dates with you probably means that they are interested in you at least initially. But you can't force chemistry and attraction so maybe just be patient because it's normal to go on a few dates and have no spark. It happened to me many times. Don't get discouraged and keep persevering! Good luck!

[gdgfx]

Hey Leo78,

don't think for a second that a woman is going to judge you on your relationship experience. In fact, an inexperienced man is a more attractive man in many ways to a woman who wants someone who's potentially there for the long-run, you'll find that most inexperience people looking for a relationship WANT THE REAL THING and the experience guys and girls usually side with a certain way of life through experience, say, if they go out often on a weekend and hook up then they will likely do that as apposed to a guy/girl who doesn't go out and is looking for the one to settle down with. I'm guessing that's what you want, right?

 

You no doubt have the traits that any worthy woman is going to adore and cherish! And you need to see it like that!

As for online dating, it's a place shrouded in A LOT of clever marketing and A LOT of money is spent trying to peel people from their lives into believing that online dating will be the be-all-end-all of loneliness, when in reality, in today's society, it's turned more so towards hooking up and cling flings because people tend to rush more and tend to want superficial things like sex. That being said, all you need is a good few photos, make sure that your not hiding in a dark corner, get some light in the photo, maybe gel your hair, even get a haircut, this profile picture is going to the spotlight for your profile and so, in many ways, it needs to stand out. It's all about advertising yourself. But most importantly, still remaining to be yourself is more than important. Once you've done that, have a look at your profile, make sure you haven't explained TOO MUCH, like, you've got into your entire life story, you need to leave some for the imagination. Don't come accross as needy. And just take your time.

 

The worst thing you can do with online dating is get talking to someone and get attached to them, you have to take these people at face value, as friends more than anything at first, and slowly build it up for there. You'll find that some women will go and some will stay. Some you thought were interested turn out not to be. Some will be after sex. Some will be emotionally damaged and break themselves apart and go strange on you and some will stay, and you'll get to know them and hopefully meet them. But don't think online dating is the only way to meet a woman.

 

Go out with your friends, to a nice club or bar, get talking to women. Don't go out with the intention of finding your life partner, go out and have fun and if you get a woman's number then hey, it turned out alright in the end. It's all down to how you think that matters. If you don't have positivity and motivation then you'll find it hard to do any of what I've just said, just have faith and some self-esteem and don't give up.