my girlfriend cheated

[daddytobe91]

My girlfriend cheated whilst 10 weeks pregnant, she said she was didnt know if she wanted the baby or the relationship but after it happened she said it made her realise how much she loves and wants to be with me and regrets it, i decided to give her another chance but i keep picturing her with him, is this normal and will it pass?

[Kendahke]

yes it is normal.

 

yes it will pass eventually. How fast it happens has to do with how fast you get past it.

[savignon]

Would sleeping with someone else make her less pregnant? That doesn't make any sense as a rationale and wouldn't fly for me at all. That being said, you may get past it or you may not. It will depend on how justified you think she was to feel and do what she felt and did, how much you trust her, how you regard her in general (think she's a quality person?), and how you feel she regards you (respects you, values you, etc).

[daddytobe91]

No it wouldnt make her any less pregnant her head was allover the place and we where fighting i know it doesnt make it right, since she told me things seem better than they ever where but i still keep picturing them together, i want to be with her and i do think shes a quality person i trust her too, she said it made her realise how much she wants to be with me and i believe her but she wont talk about it and i think thats why im struggling to get over it

[SooSad33]

If you do trust her and things seem to be in the up- I suggest continue to keep trying.

 

Could always seek some therapy if it get to you too much?

 

We all make mistakes & have regret.

[HeartGoesOn]

If there's any chance of getting past this, she needs to prove she's truly remorseful, as well as being willing to move mountains (so to speak) in order to begin building the level of trust back into the relationship.

 

This will not be an easy ride, but I wish you all the best.

[daddytobe91]

I want to make things work, and therapy is something ive thought about, but im not sure how to bring it up

[lerenard]

I am very sorry that happened to you, but honestly - if while being with you and having your baby she wasn't sure enough she wants all of that and a relationship - are YOU sure you want it?

If you doubt you are ready for a child - you practice safe sex or in a very-very critical situation you go and have an abortion, you don't go cheating while already pregnant with your BF baby! No respect toward you or your baby.

It is nice you are so determined to save it, but don't do it if you are the only one fighting for it. Sure she can be sorry, and she probably is, but what she did is very hard to swallow.

She may care for you, but her reasons for what she did are lame, sorry.

[Doc Blaze]

she probably tested waters and things failed so she went back to you...feeling dont just change over night IMO..

[GinNJuice]

She's a skank, don't fall for her crocodile tears. Dump her, get a paternity test, and work out a custody agreement.

[shelty24]

1 cheating is unforgivable

 

2 cheating whilst pregnant with your baby is sick, twisted and down right nasty

 

if a man cheated on me whilst I was pregnant (or ever)-it would be over.

 

I dont see why she should get any leeway just coz shes a woman