What Should I Do for my Sistress?

[Jade Chan]

 

 

First, I ask all of you to forgive my poor English.

 

I am a man from Hong Kong. 34 yrs old, married for 14 years, 2 children (9&6). Wife loves me and I love her, but she cared too much the children, neglected me for 8 years. I was lonely.

 

Last November a girl 22 yrs old showed up in my life. She has no family, her father hit her often, she left home when she was 16, no schooling, now she is 22, and her boyfriend was playing her around for the past 3 years just as a sex tool, she was broke penniless and painful of love, and Hong Kong economy was bad for many years, and she wanted to study back in the school, she had no money and no choice and wanted to work as a prostitute to earn living and for schooling. Then I met her, and I stopped her from working as a prostitute, somehow I had feeling for her as brother and sister. I supported her as brother and sister (because

I am rather comfortable financially), sent her to school, give her US$1025 per month, we were brother and sister, called each other brother/sister for 4 months, then we finally became lovers in a stupid moment after we kissed.

 

Then for 2 and a half months, we had greatest time of our lives, she is a very caring, loving, wonderful person, and she said that I gave her the best things in her life, took her to cruise, helicopter, best restautants in town, and all kind of activities that she had never experienced since the time we were brother and sister. I gave her all the things she needed out of my heart, not just money. I gave her first security in life, first true love although time was short. And needless to time, I gave and she gave too. I have first experienced the best love, true love and her 100% involvement and her caring. My life changed completely! I work hard and a complete person, no longer a frustrated man grew up in a green-house of my rich family. Everything perfect and wonderful.

 

Suddenly last Sunday, the wife found out, went crazy, almost collapsed, wanted kill herself. I mended the relationship and marriage for the sake of her life, children, and family and my company ('cos she held very important position in my firm) by breaking up with the sistress.

 

Sistress is now in great pain. She still has US$22000 in her bank account which I gave her for 2 years support already in advance, and I promised to continue to support her. She said her loss of me and my

love now is even greater pain than being a prostitute,

homeless, or no schooling. How can I not support her now?

She already lost me, and what then?

 

Sorry to trouble you and caused a lot of time from you people. I need advice. She beg me everyday not to break up.......Sad.

[Jade Chan]

Similar story like the US film "Pretty Woman", except I have a wife and 2 children, sistress is pretty, and I am OK, my wife is rather ugly. I need advice. Many thanks. Meanwhile, sistress and I am still communicating secretly through email, hand phone & SMS. She wants to wait, wait till my wife dies one day out of natural illness (as my wife is full of illnesses in her life). But I feel sorry to have her wait for me, not knowing how long, 1 year, 10 years? 20 years? who knows. For this waiting time, she can't see me or go out with me, terrible. I offer her brother/sister relationship again like before, but she said it is impossible to go back, she wants me to call her at least once per day otherwise she could collapse or kill herself. I feel sad for her, and for my wife(she is also the victim here) and for myself (after experienced the greatest love in my life, my life changed like Gere, then have to go back to what was before, can you imagine that?)......

[gracee]

firstly, i commend you for being a man enough to settle things, it seems that you still care for your "mistress" but you said she has $22000 in the bank, i think in short time that you had, you already did help her and now that your through, i guess its about time that she should learn to fix herself alone without the help of oyhers..if you want to help her, just leave her that.... eventually she will be strong and how can she stand on her own if are always there for her.... i know its hard but there' s no easy way....