Merebear Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 I texted my F-buddy,if any of you are familiar with my post you know who I'm talking about. Anyway I texted him Do you ever wish things were different? I thought he would understand what I meant was between me and him, and this is his exact response: I used to...but now, if I want for things to be different, I make it work... Of course, there are things that are really hard to change. Then, we need to adapt... What does this response mean exactly? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 It means that he still doesn't want you. Not trying to be harsh, just being honest. Please stop reading into the BS that he says. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthDallas40 Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 Agreed with Metrogirl. It sounds like he's fine with things as they are but doesn't want to upset you by just coming out and saying so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ecaryn Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 I think he is so far off the radar of caring what you want or need that he completely missed the connotation of it referring to your 'relationship' or lack thereof. Look, I read your other posts and the most important thing you ever need to learn in life is the opinion you have of yourself is all that matters and colors every aspect of how you live. Accept the fact that you are worth more than this. Period. And just to clarify: he is NOT a good person. Don't fool yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laninaperdida Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 Agreed with above 2 posters. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amipushy Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 He is telling you.... I dont like you enough to make the effort to be in a proper loving relationsip with you so I just **** you instead. As hard as it is, and however much you feel for him, you really dont have much choice but to end it before he finds someone he DOES like enough to make it work and dumps you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovaholic Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 I am sorry for your situation, but it sounds very unhealthy and I can't imagine what a toll it is taking on you emotionally. Please consider moving on from this creep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted October 24, 2013 Share Posted October 24, 2013 Sounds as though he thought you were talking about life in general, so that's where he went. That, or he knew what you meant and chose deliberately NOT to go there. Either way, you're not dealing with someone who's willing to relate to you emotionally, and he's holding true to f-buddy status. It's up to you whether that's good enough for you. It doesn't sound like a healthy place for you to be, and I hope you'll consider this carefully. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ItRainsItPours Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 If he wanted a relationship with you he would have pursued on. Time to cut your losses hun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaintWithLight Posted October 25, 2013 Share Posted October 25, 2013 I texted my F-buddy,if any of you are familiar with my post you know who I'm talking about. Anyway I texted him Do you ever wish things were different? I thought he would understand what I meant was between me and him, and this is his exact response: I used to...but now, if I want for things to be different, I make it work... Of course, there are things that are really hard to change. Then, we need to adapt... What does this response mean exactly? First of all, he is not an F-buddy, he is cheating man with a live-in girlfriend and he treats you like you are his booty call. The most you ever got from him was a Starbucks coffee right? Please stop sending him text messages like that. It is nothing more than a thinly disguised attempt at getting him to say something that can be used make you think he actually cares. He doesn't. His response means he has no desire to change things, you have to adapt to his wishes of keeping you on the side permanently. What does this guy have to do to make you realize there is no future here for you? He manipulated you into this arrangement and you seem powerless to break free. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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