surprise- came back after 3 yrs

[what24]

the same this happened to me 3 years ago, i was in LDR, 3.5 yrs ago, he lived in states and me in canada,, we were happy but after 6 months of relationship he decided to end it, he just gave every single possible excuses that he could come up with and broke up with me. He was always the quiet type, so even before i could ask for an explanation or talk about the situation, he made me promise not to contact him. I loved him and so i did what he had asked me to do. I was so miserable, i cried i cried and just wondered what i had done wrong or what went wrong in the relationship, after 2 years of being miserable, i accepted the fact that he's really gone and never coming back. At the time, i met a guy , me and him we became really really good friends, and he really liked me. I practically turned him down 3 times, and then the very last time he asked me out, i just thought why not give it a chance. I just made myself move on cuz i didn'tn want to be miserable anymore and i knew that he could make me happy. this october was our 1 yr, and i met his family over the summer and he just met my family 2 wks ago, every this was going perfect. I do have to admit though, my ex did come to my mind a lot I always wondered how he is , and what he is doing since he cutoff every single connection, i didn't have any way to contact him. Last week i got a surprise. I was sleeping since i had work the next morning, i got a txt msg int he middle of the night 3 inthe morning from my my , and she said she was talkign to my ex online. My ex didn't know my best friend, and he was talkin to her and for a while he thought she was me. Anyway, when i got the txt msg , i was in such a shock , i just ran to my computer logged on to msn. I started talking to him. He apologized and he wanted to sign off. I stopped him from logging off, and we started talking. He apologized for everything and he asked me for a second chance. He told me that he had thought about me too but he was too embaressed to contact me. ANyway, finally i told him that i am with someone. He said he was happy for me. we talked till 8 in the morning and then he had to go. ANyway, i tried calling him the next day spoke to him for 2 mins and he told me he'll call me later that night. He never called and i waited for him to call me. The next day after that i called him again, and he had a thanksgiving famiy gathering going on that day and he just didn't pick up any of my calls. Anway, that night i saw him online and i asked him, if he was avoiding me. And he said since i am with someone we shoudn't talk cuz that' cheating. i told him that i only want to talk to him and that's all. Since that day he never came online, or called me and i never called him either.

I love the person i am with now and i think i also love my ex.

 

My question is why did he come back after 3 years. I am really sad that i had to say no to him. He told me that if we keep on talking we are gonna have more feelings for eachother. As i said before he is always quiet. I told my bf everything cuz he knew something was wrong. I don't know what to do. I did for a long time wished that he came back to me but i also gave up a year ago. I know that we never had a real closure. I wonder if that's the reason he came back.

 

ANyway, i hope i made sense....pls feel free to comment on my situation

[zab]

hey hun how you doing, ive just com out of a long relationship involving my very 1st love so im very down in the dumps but u give me hope that i wil be able to carry on so thank you, as for your situation, stick with your new man, he must be caring if you told him about the ex and he is being supportive, trust me you will be better off...if u wana talk you can add me on AIM or MSN

 

Zab