kevinm Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Hi everyone... So, at least when it comes to sex I'm finding myself to have very little motivation recently. I've got a lot of things going on in my life logistically, so I've had to put dating on the back burner. Anyway, as it goes I've retained this profile on a dating site... not really active, but more like keeping my line in the water. So a couple of weeks ago I start talking to this girl and we're hitting it off on-line and decide to meet up that weekend. We meet and things are going just fine... fast forward a bit and we're back at her place making out. She then propositions me for a booty call, which I happily oblige. Here's the thing though... I wasn't having any fun. The sex wasn't any fun, and this girl had an amazing body. I thought a booty call was the perfect answer to my busy life. But what I'm come to find recently is that basically I've lost some sex drive. I haven't made any dietary changes, nor am I on any medications. Perhaps it's just me getting older? But I'm only 37. Perhaps I'm stressed out and that's what's causing my disruption? But seriously, I have like zero sex drive... like I don't want to have sex with any girl no matter how hot and how convenient the sex may be, as evidenced by the other weekend. I'm just not sure what to do... what to make of my new problem. How can I get my sex drive back? Where did it go in the first place? -Kevin Link to comment
rosephase Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 When was the last time you had it? Link to comment
kevinm Posted April 17, 2013 Author Share Posted April 17, 2013 When was the last time you had it? Hard to pin that down really... I'd say last Fall for certain when I had a regular girlfriend and hence regular sex life. Link to comment
hers Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 Do you think that maybe you don't have the mindset for a booty call sort of relationship? Email me sometime... Link to comment
kevinm Posted April 17, 2013 Author Share Posted April 17, 2013 Do you think that maybe you don't have the mindset for a booty call sort of relationship? Hey! So yeah, to some extent that is probably true. I'm beginning to think I don't have the mindset for any sort of relationship Link to comment
electricorchid Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 All I know is you men are very visual, so in your spare time, start to think and meditate and about things that turn you on, try to masturbate once in a while.. etc. Should work! Link to comment
kevinm Posted April 17, 2013 Author Share Posted April 17, 2013 All I know is you men are very visual, so in your spare time, start to think and meditate and about things that turn you on, try to masturbate once in a while.. etc. Should work! Ha, well I agree with you that men are very visual, but you're misunderstanding my concern. My problem does not refer to my ability to have sex, rather my lack of interest in sex altogether. Link to comment
hrtlsngl7 Posted April 21, 2013 Share Posted April 21, 2013 I am in my early 30's....and I've been a man-*****...up until recently the mind is willing but the body isn't always able. I'm speaking of a 2nd go-round w/ a woman, my body won't live up to my minds expectation. I talked w/ another man-***** friend in the same age-bracket and the same has happened to him. You have to do activities that raise your testosterone. Masturbating ALOT won't help as that drains your test. Link to comment
BlueEagle Posted April 21, 2013 Share Posted April 21, 2013 Perhaps it's just me getting older? But I'm only 37. It could be a factor. Testosterone in men begins gradually declining each year after age 25. Perhaps I'm stressed out and that's what's causing my disruption? Stress (and anxiety, worrying, depression, etc) can do a lot of damage to libido so yes that could be another factor. But seriously, I have like zero sex drive... like I don't want to have sex with any girl no matter how hot and how convenient the sex may be, as evidenced by the other weekend. Make an appointment with your doctor. Talk to him/her about it and see what might be the culprit. Your doc might exam you, order blood work, and even refer you to a specialist (endocrinologist or urologist) if your testosterone levels come back low. Above all, don't panic. This happens more often that you might think and given the abundance of these types of posts on here and other message boards, you should rest assured that this is a common complaint and that there are various treatments to it to get you back on track. Link to comment
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