Help! Shy guy problem!!!!!!!!!

[LnknPrkGrl]

Hey, everybody!!

 

I am a 19 year old college student that is painfully shy, has never had a boyfriend, and has difficulty with the whole flirting thing.

I like this guy that lives on campus with me; I met him through a mutual friend. He probably even shyer than I am, but once we started talking, everything was cool. I enjoy talking to him because he's more mature and intellectual than the rest of the guys around and he told me that he likes talking to me, also.

His friends and mine go bowling every Monday night and since is the only time I can talk to him without his nosy friends completely listening, I "try" to flirt by making physical contact; I've noticed prolonged high-five's on his part. Sometimes I catch him giving me weird looks, but it's probably because he thinks I'm crazy.

I really like this guy, and school is going to be out in less than a month. I would "flirt" with him like I do on our bowling nights, but I don't want to be all obvious and embarrass myself in front of our friends. He is so shy, he even told me that if he liked a girl, he wouldn't tell her how he feels, so it's up to me to do something about it. Should I just be a woman about it and ask him out or should I tell him that I want to get to know him better? Or none of the above? I am so clueless when it comes to males and their behavior, it's not even funny, so any and all advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

[AN]

I'm very shy, I would love it if the girl make the first move...followed by the second, and third, until i'm comfortable.

[BrownEyedGuy]

Yeah,I'm a shy guy too. I think it'd be best for you to move things further without waiting for him to initiate it. There's no rule that men always have to make the first step. But it IS sensible for the less shy individual to make the first step

[Jose]

I agree with BrownEyedGuy. Im shy too also. I think we are all shy.

[lipstick]

i am not that shy , so if i were you i would say to him:

 

- DO YOU DATE? CAUSE I DO SO, AND YOU ARE NEXT ON MY SCHEDULE!

 

works!!, if he laughs than its yes , if not .......hell with the schedule, hit on diaries................

[SwingFox]

Hi LnknPrkGrl,

 

First of all welcome to eNotalone.com and thank you for coming to us for seeking advice. I am pleased to hear that you really like this guy. I understand that you're shy, though, to make the first move.

 

We live in the year 2003 in which I believe that both guys AND women can initiate the first move. However, I know that some guys could feel very intimidated by the fact that the woman is initiating more. Still, what's holding you back from initiating contact with him? Just because of a silly rule? Wouldn't you want to know how he feels about you and what he thinks of you? I tend to believe that him telling you that he is very shy to initiate contact is a pretty good hint. I would do it and see where things lead to.

 

I hope that this reply helps you in making the right decisions that will work for you and I wish you good luck

 

~ SwingFox ~