Phoenix Down Posted October 19, 2004 Share Posted October 19, 2004 This thursday a good friend of mine's having a first b-day party for her child and invited me to come. She also stated that my ex would be there. She said my ex seemed like she didn't care if I showed up or not. What ever that means... I said I'd go. But she may have her new boyfriend there, (if she even has one). It would kinda suck, but I don't think I'd have a problem with it. How should I be. (p.s. we went out for 3 years, but broke up 3 months ago.) long story...PD Link to comment
ang3l2004 Posted October 19, 2004 Share Posted October 19, 2004 My opinion would be dont analyze the situation and be strong because it's one thing to think oh if I go to this party and see her with her new boyfriend I will be ok then really seeing it but dont let it get to you it is your ex you may still love her but just be strong 3 years is along time and it was probably really hard for you,Go to the party and have a good time and dont worry about it. Link to comment
Scout Posted October 19, 2004 Share Posted October 19, 2004 I'm surprised your good friend invited you, your ex, and your ex's new bf to the party. If you don't feel up to facing her, and having to pretend like you don't care, by all means send a present to your friend's kid, and beg off from the event. No need for you to be stressed out and upset right in the middle of your healing process. Link to comment
Phoenix Down Posted October 19, 2004 Author Share Posted October 19, 2004 Thanks, I had been doing fine for the past few weeks, but when my friend called and said what she did, it kinda messed with me. I know I'm still strong, but when she said she didn't really seem to care if I came or not for some reason hurt a little. I'll still go and have a great time. I just hope I keep my positive attitude and dont sink into thought. I'll be ok. PD Link to comment
Phoenix Down Posted October 19, 2004 Author Share Posted October 19, 2004 Scout, I'm not sure if she even has a boyfriend. I'm just prepearing my self for the worst. I'll be strong eather way. What wont kill me will only make me stronger. Link to comment
Princess777 Posted October 19, 2004 Share Posted October 19, 2004 Greetings. I would probably skip it if it were me and take a gift over before the party starts for good friendship's sake. I wonder if you are going just because you're hoping this is a chance to see her again/see what she's up to/secretly hoping to get back together? Link to comment
Phoenix Down Posted October 19, 2004 Author Share Posted October 19, 2004 Princess, I just feel like if I don't go she'll see me as weak. I know I'm strong. It might suck if she does bring dude, I'm not even sure she has a boy friend. I think I should just go and show her she has no control over my life. And yes it would be nice to see her. Do you think that will bring more harm thatn good? Link to comment
Scout Posted October 19, 2004 Share Posted October 19, 2004 Don't worry about how she will perceive you. Put your own well-being first. If you know that it will be uncomfortable for you, and possibly lead you to sadness and introspection after the party is over (and it probably will), then avoid the whole thing. You have come far in your road to healing...and if this in anyway could set you back, don't go. For what it's worth, I seriously doubt she will think you are weak. There is no need to tell your friend why you aren't going, either. Make up an excuse - anything. We can help you there, too! Link to comment
Phoenix Down Posted October 19, 2004 Author Share Posted October 19, 2004 Now I'm torn. It would hurt to see her with someone else but I need to face the facts. What ever they are. And at the same time, I don't want to know. I'll think about it. I have a few days. It's just been so long sense I've seen her. I don't know...this sux Link to comment
popo Posted October 20, 2004 Share Posted October 20, 2004 Phoenix Down, u're not strong enough to go there and to know 'the worst news' from ur ex. so better not come and not know. it wont bring u any good. Link to comment
Phoenix Down Posted October 20, 2004 Author Share Posted October 20, 2004 But running from everything won't bring any good. I have to face my fears or let them control me. It's going to hurt, but if I dont show up, she'll think I'm weak. I can handle it. Link to comment
fantasia2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Share Posted October 21, 2004 Princess, I just feel like if I don't go she'll see me as weak. I know I'm strong. It might suck if she does bring dude, I'm not even sure she has a boy friend. I think I should just go and show her she has no control over my life. And yes it would be nice to see her. Do you think that will bring more harm thatn good? Listen to me , If you love her or not fine. But realize this, you are no longer a couple at this point and what you should do is go and have some fun because your friend ask you to. If she makes you feel uncomfortable then never let her see it. This is the time to show her that you are over her even if you are feeling like you are not over her at all. BE strong AND ENJOY YOURSELF at the party EVEN IF IT KILLS YOU INSIDE. Do YOU really want to KNOW WHY SHE SAID SHE might bring a BOYFRIEND? Because SHE WANTED TO SEE YOUR REACTION of HORROR on your face! Your FACE SHOULD NOT LOOK LIKE THE KID FROM HOME ALONE! It should look like the guy from Miller time! Have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
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