euphoria24 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 if you are following my story: "Hey, I just wanted to apologize. It seems like everything was bad timing. I'm working a lot and have another person I was/am dating. I honestly did enjoy meeting and hanging out with you. I just felt a little overwhelmed and thought that perhaps I wasn't doing the right thing. Just wanted to say you're probably the nicest person I've met in a while and i think that's probably the best thing anyone could ask for. I'll miss you. I hate being the bad guy in situations like this..." I dont know if this is a rejection letter or an I miss you come back letter. What do you all think ? I guess he is taken and I certainly do not want to build a relationship on a bad foundation. To me if he is with someone else then he is unavailable. I cant date someone who is with someone else. Plain and simple. Link to comment
mhowe Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 It is not a rejection letter or a miss you/come back later. It is a good bye, it was nice knowing you. Link to comment
RFB Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Agree with MHOWE. It's a nice goodbye letter. Link to comment
CLIMBK Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 yup its a goodbye, i had a similar thing, its just a nice way for them to feel ok, and it makes them look good. My ex sent me a text saying, how horrible she felt for hurting me again, and that i should do whatever to move on, and that i deserve better.. haha. massive * * * * * . i havent replied, silence speaks volumes. i would advise you do the same. leave it be. Link to comment
allielynn Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Yeah. That's a ncie goodbye. He's to soothe his OWN ego. That way he wouldn't look like a jerk for not getting back to you Link to comment
blueidealist24 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 If he says he's dating another person, it's a goodbye, I think. Or maybe a keeping you on the back burner thing in case things don't work out with the other person (I would not let him keep you there!). Link to comment
markie6 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 Its a good bye, and guilt relief, saying nice things , but just as much to make him feel less badly Link to comment
annie24 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 That's a goodbye. I read your story. It doesn't sound like he was ever that interested, certainly not as invested as you were. I understand, I've been there. I would start posting in healing after breakup vs getting back together. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 I agree with the others -- definitely a goodbye. I think you can take what he says at face value: He thinks you're a really nice person; he's seeing someone else. He doesn't think that seeing both of you is the right thing. He feels bad. I got an e-mail almost exactly like this from a guy I dated for a few months. In fact, much of it was the same -- he was sorry, he thought I was a great person, he'd found someone else, he hoped we could be friends at some point, etc. -- at first, I was in denial about it and reading a lot into a few short sentences. After awhile, I recognized it for what it was -- a goodbye. Painful, but necessary. It's good that he at least responded and told you this so that you can put it behind you and go on to someone else. Don't read anything into the "I'll miss you" part; he might genuinely mean it, but it doesn't mean he wants a relationship with you. I agree with Annie -- time to move to the "Healing" forum, or maybe even the "Dating" forum on this site! Link to comment
euphoria24 Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 The problem is that I fall in love too easily...If you look at my threads from December I was in love with another guy! Can you believe it??? lol Link to comment
annie24 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 I am like you but it doesn't serve us. I would forget this guy and move on. Reading his apology, it sounds like he is not seeing this other woman anymore (at least ot seriously) but is still not interested in pursuing you. Link to comment
mhowe Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 The problem is that I fall in love too easily...If you look at my threads from December I was in love with another guy! Can you believe it??? lol I think you are confusing "falling in love" with clinginess and neediness and wanting to be in a relationship. You are "falling in love" and they barely have started dating you. It has to do w/ self-esteem. Link to comment
euphoria24 Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 I love this site! Everyone has such great insight !!!!!! Link to comment
euphoria24 Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 where is calichick007???? Link to comment
euphoria24 Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 I just think he was not able to meet my expectations. Those of making plans on our days off and doing stuff together. I would plan stuff on our mutual days off but the expectations on my part got blown waaaaaaaay out of proportion. I am not going to date someone who is involved with someone else, I just wont do it from this point forward. TAKE CARE! x If you've done nothing wrong You've got nothing to fear If you've something to hide You shouldn't even be here Long live us The persuaded we Integral Collectively To the whole project It's brand new Conceived solely To protect you One world One reason Unchanging One season If you've done nothing wrong You've got nothing to fear If you've something to hide You shouldn't even be here You've had your chance Now we've got the mandate If you've changed your mind I'm afraid it's too late We're concerned You're a threat You're not integral To the project Sterile Immaculate Rational Perfect Everyone has Their own number In the system that We operate under We're moving to A situation Where your lives exist As information One world One life One chance One reason All under One sky Unchanging One season If you've done nothing wrong You've got nothing to fear If you've something to hide You shouldn't even be here You've had your chance Now we've got the mandate If you've changed your mind I'm afraid it's too late We're concerned You're a threat You're not integral To the project Sterile Immaculate Rational Perfect Link to comment
euphoria24 Posted May 9, 2012 Author Share Posted May 9, 2012 One question. Should I respond ? Link to comment
mhowe Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 One question. Should I respond ? You are kidding, right? There is nothing to respond to...... Link to comment
italiannmf24 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 It's obviously not a "get back together" letter if he mentioned the woman he's seeing now in it. Link to comment
calichick007 Posted May 9, 2012 Share Posted May 9, 2012 where is calichick007???? Please don't respond, sweetie. There's nothing to say. Link to comment
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