clint88 Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 One time I picked this girl up at her house for a date. When we got dome I walked her to her door. The next day she called and said she had a great time but didn't really appreciate me walking her to her door because it made her feel uncomfortable, that I might try to force myself in her house and harm her. What's everyone's take on walking your date to the door? I have always done it as I find it respectful Link to comment
jingles2010 Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 i personally always like it and appreciate it. that is a bit of an odd sentiment, and a little stranger that she made it known. but i guess she let you know. presumedly she'll let you know in the future when she's cool with you escorting her to the door. i'd say generally it's a safe bet though and an appreciated gesture. Link to comment
MasterPo Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 In this day and age she has a valid safety point. I generally open her car door and walk halfway to wherever and stop. I'd wait until she was inside and wave goodnight. I do this until she decides where she wants me out on the lawn, the doorway or inside. Link to comment
Natasha24 Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Walking a girl to her door is very respectful and I think it comes off as sweet. It gives her the power to decide if she wants to kiss you/invite you in or not. I find it odd that she told you it made her uncomfortable, and especially with her reasoning. I'm all for safety (I'm paranoid outside at night by myself), but it makes no sense that she is willing to be in a car alone with you, but not on her porch? I'm really put off by her comment. It's a million times more dangerous to be in a car with a stranger than in a house with a stranger.. Link to comment
jingles2010 Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Walking a girl to her door is very respectful and I think it comes off as sweet. It gives her the power to decide if she wants to kiss you/invite you in or not. I find it odd that she told you it made her uncomfortable, and especially with her reasoning. I'm all for safety (I'm paranoid outside at night by myself), but it makes no sense that she is willing to be in a car alone with you, but not on her porch? I'm really put off by her comment. It's a million times more dangerous to be in a car with a stranger than in a house with a stranger.. absolutely second natasha24's comment Link to comment
Furbys Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 I think it is a nice gesture but i think this can make someone feel uncomfortable because they may feel like a move may be made (e.g. a kiss) which can be awkward. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Walking a girl to her door is very respectful and I think it comes off as sweet. It gives her the power to decide if she wants to kiss you/invite you in or not. I find it odd that she told you it made her uncomfortable, and especially with her reasoning. I'm all for safety (I'm paranoid outside at night by myself), but it makes no sense that she is willing to be in a car alone with you, but not on her porch? I'm really put off by her comment. It's a million times more dangerous to be in a car with a stranger than in a house with a stranger.. This. It would be a valid safety point on her part if she DIDN'T ride alone in a car with you. So it seems odd to me. I personally like it when a guy walks me to my door and I take it as a nice gesture. I just wouldn't do it for her any longer since she doesn't like it, but for other girls in the future, you would be fine to do it. Link to comment
Natasha24 Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 I meant to add in my other post: the fact that she told you at all is bizarre. Nothing says "How about a second date?" like "I think you might be a murderer." There are lot of other ways that she could have told/asked you not to walk her to her door. The whole thing is weird. Don't worry, YOU did nothing wrong. She sounds a little kookey. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 That is bizarre. I think she sounds a little kooky too. Walking me to the door or not wouldn't make or break anything with me. Well, unless you dropped me off somewhere awful or tore out of my driveway like an idiot. Link to comment
ToF Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Yeah, it's a little late to fear for your safety when you've already been alone in a car together ... lol. Silly. OP, I think it's a chivalrous gesture. It's old fashioned, though (which I happen to appreciate when it comes to manners), so many girls today simply won't know how to interpret it. Link to comment
MizzGee Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Hahaha, this gave me a chuckle.. what a strange fear! My friends and I talk about guys who walk us to the door (or walk up to the door instead of just texting 'hey I'm here') as if they're unicorns... beautiful and nonexistent Link to comment
DreamingLife Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 OP, well I can somewhat understand where she's coming from. Walking her to the door may have been a chivalrous caring act from your point of view, but if a girl has some insecurites this simple act will give her anxiety about things she may be thinking in her head including "the kiss", the guy being too pushy and inviting himself for a drink or something and things escalating from there. I've been around guys who make it hard to say no to a dinner invitation, so same sentiment at nighttime may have occurred to her. IMO, she's still uncomfortable around you, or has trust hang ups. Actually, her telling you this is good, she's communicating at least, but watch out, if she tells it as if you're at fault or trying to project behaviors on you then she might be a bit blinded by her fears and prejudice. In this day and age she has a valid safety point. I generally open her car door and walk halfway to wherever and stop. I'd wait until she was inside and wave goodnight. I do this until she decides where she wants me out on the lawn, the doorway or inside. I like this method actually - go halfway and have 50/50 responsibility on what you both want. Smart Link to comment
DarlingDoll Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 ...that I might try to force myself in her house and harm her. Did she actually say that line? I find that an odd thing to say to a date, even if you felt that way. I understand her fear, though. Personally, I would like being walked up to my door by a date. Link to comment
DN Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Since you didn't force your way in and harm her her fear was groundless and there was no need for her to express it - so there was no need for her to be so rude and insulting. If she didn't want you to do that she should have said so when you got out of the car. In your place I would not be asking her for a second date. Link to comment
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