Eocsor Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I was reading yet another guide on here today about how to get back together with your ex. I found myself actually agreeing with some of the points. Yup, ignore them, seem aloof, don't react to any news of a rebound, be nonchalent, yup, that seems like sound advice. And then I caught myself. I thought Really?? People want to play those games? Basically trying to trick or manipulate someone into being interested in them again. And I thought sure, maybe they come back because, I don't know, you rejected them and they were curious or whatever, but is that the basis for starting up a relationship again. And if thats it, how the heck can it last. I know, I know, I'm old, I'm grumpy, I've been called overly pessimistic(and those are some of the nicer comments) but shouldn't somone come back simply because they miss you and realise they have made a mistake WITHOUT any intervention from you? If they don't want you, if they don't realise they miss you all on their own without any prodding by you, is that really a relationship that stands a chance and deserves to be pursued? It's hard enough making a relationship work where two people are actually in love and running towards each other at full speed. How successful can a relationship be if one partner is running in the opposite direction because they don't totally love you and the only reason you caught them is you tricked them into slowing down. I guess what I'm trying to say is unless the person that dumped you comes back with hat in hand and tells you I love you, I missed you, I realise I want to try and make this work, what are you fighting for? My guide to reconcile would be quite simple. Do nothing. Move on. And if they come back one day and knock on your door, take them in if you still feel the same. Link to comment
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