kourt77 Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Been exactly 3 month today since my bf and I broke it off. Wow. Time really does fly by. The first month was absolutely horrible. The break up was inevitable..we wanted different things in life and we were not making each other as happy as we both could and deserved to be. The relationship was far from perfect, but he was my best friend for 3 years and I do miss very much. I think about him often..only now it doesn't bring me to tears. Just wanted to tell those who are fresh into a breakup that it really does get better with time. I read it over and over again in all the posts on this forum just wishing the time away so I wouldn’t hurt that badly anymore. I cried everyday multiple times a day for weeks. I couldn’t wait to get to my car at the end of the day so I could just breakdown and cry it out. I knew time would heal me..but time seemed to be standing still. Then today I glanced at the calendar and realized it's been exactly 3 months since the breakup and I couldn’t believe it. We went NC immediately after breaking it off because we thought it would be best for both of us to heal. Several weeks ago we exchanged a few friendly and very brief emails and that was it..NC since then. I was sad for the rest of the day after emailing with him because I missed him..more so his friendship than the relationship because time allowed me to see that we were not right for each other. He is a great guy and a caring person and I know he will make someone very happy..we were two people who fell in love..shared some really amazing memories but a romantic relationship was not in the cards for us. I know in the grand scheme of things that 3 months is still very early in this healing process and I'm sure my emotions will be on a wonderful rollercoaster ride for many more months to come..but I am learning to embrace it. I learned a lot about myself and also what I am looking for in my next relationship. My advice for those fresh into a breakup.. keep your head up and embrace all the ups and downs because there will be plenty of them. Surround yourself with family and close friends..but give yourself some 'you' time to cry the ugly cry and get it all out. You'll go crazy if you don’t! I wish you all the best and thank you all for posting and sharing your stories! Link to comment
butterflyburn Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 That is true. I am also starting to feel good and although not completely healed I know I shall be fine. Link to comment
AnnaN Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 That is so hopeful! I am still at the stage of denial, it's been a little less than 3 weeks and all I think about is how to get him back... I want to move on and forget about it but I can't. Link to comment
Melting Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I am 2.5mths in and feeling alot better already also. Not completely healed, but definitely in a different mind set and my heart is no longer filled with sadness. Link to comment
DerekJason Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 a week away from 5 mths, and feeling waaaaaay better than the first, second, and third mths. im still a bit apprehensive about dating, but i will get there. Link to comment
dabbledave Posted November 16, 2011 Share Posted November 16, 2011 give yourself some 'you' time to cry the ugly cry and get it all out. You'll go crazy if you don’t! This is so true. Let the tears flow. Release the pain through your tears. You'll feel relatively calm and serene after every cry. Your mind will momentarily clear so that you can consciously fill it up with loving and grateful thoughts that lift you up and carry you forward -- until the next time you need to cry, of course. Then you let the tears flow again. And each time you let them flow there are fewer tears. And in each gratitude-filled aftermath you travel even further. DD Link to comment
KYRiverGrl Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 Thank you for the hopeful post ... it's been a little less than 2 months for me and I am still going through the emotional roller-coasters (although the intensity has abated). I am so looking forward to the day I will no longer miss him! Link to comment
purrbaby Posted November 17, 2011 Share Posted November 17, 2011 I'm right there with ya. I'm 3 months post BU and I am feeling so much better and like my heart and soul are finally "free" from being emotionally trapped. I went through a breakup similar to what you described, it was inevitable as we weren't really happy or going anywhere. I'm feeling so good now like I really made the right decision to end the relationship. I don't think I'm ready to get involved with someone else or even really date right now and I'm okay with that. Single is feeling good Link to comment
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