CottonProof Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 Ok, long and short of it: I've had a couple wonderful relationships which have eventually fallen apart because, amongst other things, the girls were emotionally immature. Some examples: getting upset that I've had previous very close relationships (it's not like I can change my past...), jealous because I speak to some girl (I'm better with girls than guys, generally and have way more female friends but I am NOT a flirt), just over-sensitive to things that most people would just get over and move on from. My most recent relationship basically broke down because I did something wrong (not tell her about a serious relationship I've had in the past) and she called me up and dumped me on the spot. She was unable to forgive or listen to what I had to say. Another problem is that I'm more attracted to the fun, silly and lively type. I'm not saying that mature girls can't be fun or anything but it seems more likely for an immature girl to have these features. The thing is that it's extremely hard to determine how mature a girl will be because, of course, when you're first talking and you like each other everyone tries to cover up faults and be as attractive as possible. The best thing I can come up with to help determine maturity is to to find out about her past relationships. I've found that these girls I've had issues with have had very few, or no, "proper" boyfriends before so I guess they expect a relationship to be like a fairytale romance and they don't understand that relationships have ups and downs. I'd imagine that, generally, someone who has had more "proper" relationships will be more mature. So, any more advice? I'm at university, 21 years old. Link to comment
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