crazylove Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 I've been dating my boyfriend nearly a year. He is 24 and I'm 26. When Alex and I were first talking back in September of 2010 I didn't know for sure know how into me he was. I had spent the summer going on dates and not really looking for anything serious at the time. There was this one weekend that month that I had a concert I was gonna go to with a friend of mine (Josh) and it was a platonic thing. Josh and I had hooked up once that summer but it was something I knew wasn't going anywhere and since I had been talking to Alex and starting to develop feelings for him I made sure nothing happened the night of the concert with Josh. Sure enough Josh was kind of seeing this other girl and I spent the night at Josh's after the concert cause we had both been drinking but absolutely NOTHING happened. The next night I was with Alex and that was the first time he admitted to liking me etc etc. Well it's been a year and 2 months since the concert with Josh. Alex found out about it because I posted some pictures on facebook and was open about it because we talked about what we had done the night before and I guess I had lied to him and told him I didn't sleep at Josh's that night. I guess Alex had some bad nightmare about me last night and he woke up today to this stupid concert thing bothering him. Tonight he asked me if I had hooked up with Josh that night of the concert and had to tell him more than once "No". I told him I slept over there but nothing happened and apologized for a lie I told him over a year ago. He was kind of upset which made me upset. I asked him "Why are you bringing up something that happened over a year ago before we were anything serious?" and he told me after his dream it just started bugging him all day. I then asked him "Do you trust me? Because if you don't trust me by now we have a problem." And he said he does trust me and he hopes he still can after finding out I lied in the past. I started to get a little defensive and told him I didn't think it was fair of him to ask me all these questions since I never questioned what he was doing when I wasn't around when we were talking back then but I guess I might have set myself up for questions since I was dumb enough to post pictures online and since I was open to talk about it. I wasn't in a relationship at the time and wasn't doing anything wrong. After we talked he felt better but I didn't. I felt really shooken up, was afraid he was going to break up with me and was bothered by him bringing that up now. If it really bugged him and he needed to talk about it than I'm glad he did but now I gotta shake it off. Did I handle the situation ok? Do I need to clear anything else up with him? I worry deep down maybe he doesn't trust me all the way. I asked him "Why are you so afraid to trust other people?" and his response was "Because it's one of the most important things." and I agree but I don't know if him having been left for another guy by the first woman he fell for years ago is the reason. I'm guessing it's part of it. The whole thing just kinda stunk. I don't know if I just let this go and be glad he feels better or try to talk about it more. Suggestions? Link to comment
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