Too manly that I can't get a date or even a one night stand.

[Madison12]

I actually find it VERY manly and attractive when a man has the confidence to approach me and make his interest known. You, my friend, are walking around in fear.

[blueidealist24]

Maybe you don't actually want a relationship with a woman? If you have trouble getting along with other men too, maybe you just don't like other people that much? You might be really picky.. if you were actually attracted to a woman enough I don't think you would have a problem 'submitting' by approaching her.. I think you just would because it was worth it. I'm sort of like you when it comes to men and going up and talking to them, and sometimes I think something is wrong with me too although it's not so much of a problem for me as I'm not expected to be the initiator as the female. But then when I really like someone I will go up and talk to them (not ask them out, since I don't ask men out, but you know, show interest). So yeah, I think your problem might be that you don't like these women enough to really 'try'. Maybe you need more than physical attraction in order for you to 'sacrifice' your masculinity or whatever to go up and put yourself out there to her.

[frree]

I actually find it VERY manly and attractive when a man has the confidence to approach me and make his interest known. You, my friend, are walking around in fear.

 

You're not getting it. By showing interest in someone other then myself I'm being weak. Just doing so seems like humiliation.

[CMS]

here is a question, is it unmanly to go for something that you like when you see it? is it unmanly to go up to somebody and start a conversation to get to know them? is it unmanly to talk to a girl to see find out who she is, what she is like as a human being?

[annony]

You're not getting it. By showing interest in someone other then myself I'm being weak. Just doing so seems like humiliation.

YOU'RE not getting it!!

Your thinking is different from the norm, therefore is just not going to work for most if not all women.

You have two options here;

Work on changing your perspective, because the only person you have control over is yourself

 

of

 

Accepting that thinking this way will result in living the way you do...dateless and misunderstood. If that's ok with you, there is no reason to change, if you are looking for a change in the way others see you, you need to change the way you see yourself.

[frree]

here is a question, is it unmanly to go for something that you like when you see it? is it unmanly to go up to somebody and start a conversation to get to know them? is it unmanly to talk to a girl to see find out who she is, what she is like as a human being?

 

If it's an object you're going for then no. I have no interest in getting to know most people because they're boring.

[Angler]

There's something more to your story. Something that you may not be aware of, or refuse to acknowledge.

 

Enlighten me.

 

That's your gig man. I have no idea how you got to where you are today.

[camus154]

Meh. I think we're being had.

 

In case we're not and this is real, then great. Sounds like you're happy with where you're at. So again, not sure why you came here for advice.

[Moontiger]

Seriously Frree, what is your opinion of your own father? Grandfather? Other males in your family who are married or in relationships? Are they are "weak" and "humiliated"?

 

Is there anyone you DO admire either someone you know personally, a historical figure, etc?

[annony]

What exactly is your goal here? Are you looking for a way to get a date/one night stand? Are you looking to make friends? Are you looking for a way for people to approach you? Are you just venting and uninterested in changing your situation?

[CMS]

or perhaps he is merely trying to get a reaction from all of us for his own entertainment?

[camus154]

^ Probably.

[frree]

Seriously Frree, what is your opinion of your own father? Grandfather? Other males in your family who are married or in relationships? Are they are "weak" and "humiliated"?

 

Is there anyone you DO admire either someone you know personally, a historical figure, etc?

 

I have no opinion on the rest of my family, just indifference.

 

There's nobody I admire to be honest. Everybody is flawed.

[camus154]

I have no opinion on the rest of my family, just indifference.

 

There's nobody I admire to be honest. Everybody is flawed.

 

Make that definitely. Good bye, frree. It was entertaining while it lasted.

[frree]

or perhaps he is merely trying to get a reaction from all of us for his own entertainment?

 

No I'm not a troll.Just in a bad mood right now.

[Angler]

Yes, everyone has flaws - but does one have to be perfect to be admired?

[frree]

What exactly is your goal here? Are you looking for a way to get a date/one night stand? Are you looking to make friends? Are you looking for a way for people to approach you? Are you just venting and uninterested in changing your situation?

 

Originally when I started the thread is for a way for people to approach me. The more I post the more annoyed I've become and now I'm just venting. I'm not a troll though, but people can believe what they want.

[LIzardKing]

I think you are a homosexual. Nothing wrong with that. Just embrace it!

[frree]

Yes, everyone has flaws - but does one have to be perfect to be admired?

 

To me yes, and I'm not joking. No human deserves admiration from me. Nobody is better or greater then me. I don't care what they've achieved or who looks up to them.

[Moontiger]

Not trying to attack you here, my honest opinion (which I am sure you shall ignore) you sound narcissistic to me. You may want to do some self-reflection and seek professional help. Hope things work out of you.

 

Peace out.

[frree]

I think you are a homosexual. Nothing wrong with that. Just embrace it!

 

That would work If I was attracted to men. I hate them even more then women.

[annony]

Originally when I started the thread is for a way for people to approach me. The more I post the more annoyed I've become and now I'm just venting. I'm not a troll though, but people can believe what they want.

If you want people to approach you, it's going to take a change in attitude. I realize this is not the easy answer, and it's not a quick fix. It's probably not something you want to do because you've become comfortable with the way that you are.

This is something you will have to decide, is it worth it to change to get this goal, or is it worth it to abandon the goal and remain the same?

That's going to be your call.

[LIzardKing]

Whatever you have to tell yourself man!

[mhowe]

To me yes, and I'm not joking. No human deserves admiration from me. Nobody is better or greater then me. I don't care what they've achieved or who looks up to them.

 

Wouldn't spend a lot of time worrying about that happening.

[Angler]

That would work If I was attracted to men. I hate them even more then women.

 

Whoa, whoa, whoa...this went from not being able to approach women, to hating everyone??