frree Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 How do you see it working for you with a woman? Would you want a woman to approach you to submit sexually? Would there be any talking, getting to know each other, discussing interests? Yes, If she talked to me first I wouldn't have a problem holding down a conversation or getting to know her. I might add, if what I consider an attractive women approached me I wouldn't initialy see her as date material, I'd like to get to know her first. I'm not expecting a woman to take her clothes off and beg me to have sex with her after she first set eyes. Would be nice but unrealistic. Link to comment
Angler Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Question: Do you have a desire to no longer view people, relationships, the world they way you do? Do you wish you didn't see things this way? Or, are you content living in your present state? Link to comment
Fudgie Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Compassion? You really think I want or care for compassion? What good is that to me? What good would it do? Oh yes of course, I'd like more sex, I won't deny that. The very reason I avoid it so is because I cannot stand things such as compassion. I have had sex before btw. You known guys like me? No you don't. Because you wouldn't get a chance to know me. I'd be the invisible man to you, a deliberate ploy by myself not by you I might add. So again, why are you even bother talking to girls? Is is just sex? So you really don't want a relationship? I suggest Craigslist or some sort of dating site and specify "CASUAL SEX ONLY" and you'll get women who will want sex from you but nothing more. Is that what you want? Because I think that's a very good suggestion for someone like you. And yes, I've known guys like you. They like to act "tough" and holier than thou, but then don't get sex and are very insecure, pathetic, angry people. And that's how they grow their life. I'd rather not get to know them anyway, I'm sorry I know them now. They are too damaged to ever have a normal, healthy relationship. That goes for you too. Please, for the sake of women, I suggest you either get counselling or stick with the porn and sex sites. I really think it's best for everyone if you do that. Link to comment
frree Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 Question: Do you have a desire to no longer view people, relationships, the world they way you do? Do you wish you didn't see things this way? Or, are you content living in your present state? No I'm not content or I wouldn't start this thread would I? Unfortunately, It's like how do you change reality? Not sure it's possible to change my perception on things. Link to comment
Angler Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 No I'm not content or I wouldn't start this thread would I? I have no idea. People here are trying to ask you things and suggest you get help, and all you do is lash out and justify your views, call us inferior, not worthy of admiration, love, or anything but contempt and hatred. Would you go see a therapist to talk about your problems? Or is that not manly? Honestly, I think you're fooling yourself by excusing this as "too manly". None of the behavioural or emotional traits you've identified for yourself have anything to do with manliness, or lack thereof. You can't expect to get better if you aren't ready to "man up" and be honest with yourself. Link to comment
Angler Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 I wouldn't have even given you that time. You aren't worthy of my time. No offence, just being honest with you there. WHAT THE #### MAN!?!?!?! You want help, open a thread then treat people like that!?!?!?! Link to comment
journeynow Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Yes, If she talked to me first I wouldn't have a problem holding down a conversation or getting to know her. I might add, if what I consider an attractive women approached me I wouldn't initialy see her as date material, I'd like to get to know her first. OK, this helps. I can accept that perhaps this is the way you are wired as far as emotions and relationships go. Many of us are wired differently in different ways, and it can provide it's own particular challenges. It may be a matter of coming accross as more approachable, and that doesn't have to be about you making the first move. Facial expression, actions, body language...all can express whether you are approachable or not. Link to comment
journeynow Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 What do you do for work? What other things in your life are working well? It might give us some insight that helps. Link to comment
journeynow Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Question: Do you have a desire to no longer view people, relationships, the world they way you do? Do you wish you didn't see things this way? Or, are you content living in your present state? Yes, this is a valid question. Do you want anything to change, or are you just expressing the way things are? Link to comment
frree Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 WHAT THE #### MAN!?!?!?! You want help, open a thread then treat people like that!?!?!?! Yes I'll treat her like that. She's not given no advice just a bunch of sarcastic remarks about my character. I could say a lot worse, but I know it would probably result in me being banned or the the thread being locked. She was obviously rejected by someone and I remind her of him. She's wrong in that respect. My posts have triggered her, not her fault but not my fault either. Link to comment
Angler Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 This all screams insecurity, not manliness. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Why is it not manly to let women approach you? I've done that my whole life and had no trouble attracting women and having great relationships. If you're reasonably attractive and have your life together, you don't need to chase people, they chase you. That's been my experience anyway. I might somewhat get what OP is feeling a bit here, but I don't know. I can understand how it would be frustrating as a man to be expected to chase women. It should be a 2 way street as we're all just people. I'd refuse to be the only to do the chasing 100% of the time as well. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 This thread has run its course. Link to comment
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