playstheblues Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 Hi all, please find my story here - if you want some background. Basically my ex- boyfriend of nearly a decade broke up with me out of the blue. It has since come to light that he is suffering from depression quite badly but only started taking meds and seeing a psychotherapist about a month ago. I am still feeling devastated and we have just finalized the sale of our property so we now have no more reason to be in contact at all. I've moved away to go and live with my brother and his family just to take some time out. Right now- I feel like my life has ended. I am feeling so worthless And feel pathetic that ive had to take time out of my life, quit my job, leave a city I loved but I really couldn't see an alternative given the state I was in. Living with family is lovely but almost the last decade i lived by myself or with my ex so it is really overwhelming. We have been broken up for about 3 months and he doesn't really know what he is doing I.e. if he wants to try and work things out or not. This confusion is supposedly because of tbe depression but i am becoming impatient. I am feeling so sad that the relationship has ended and still love him very much but don't know what to do. Do I just keep waiting? I think moving away was a mistake because I will be out of sight and out of mind. I am becoming completely overwhelmed by spending the holiday season alone- Christmas and both our birthdays are in December and was always our favorite time of year- we made a big deal out of it and now I'm all alone. He is still in contact with me, though not every day and I am not initiating any contact. He still calls me pet names that he had for me and has said that me moving will not make any difference to our relationship outcome - I.e. Whether we work things out or we don't but all that is fine except he has not said that he wants to get back together. He seems to be going along in his new life and although he says he is sad and things feel weird he hasn't changed his mind and maybe he never will. At this point I feel like I'm never going to heal. I love him and have been prepared to wait but how long is too long? It's been three months and the situation hasn't progressed. Is he waiting until the meds kick in to see if he feels better? Oh god... Any advice welcome. Link to comment
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