ISTHATDAVE Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Hi, Ive been in a relationship with my partner for 4.5 years. We've had a rough year and Ive not helped by not supporting her enough with her career aim after she completed her degree course and got a really great result. This has ended with increasingly intense arguing betweeen us as we both feel stuck and really frustrated with each other wanting somewhat different things. Theres also a nine yr age gap shes 24 Im 33. She has said various things about wanting space to think. She said last week she wants to move out and spend 6 months living apart and no contact during the first month or so. she says that if I love her then I will do this for her! She says various things like she loves me but the spark has been affected because of the arguing, which is fair although I dont want her to go. Shes been increasingly spending time away with friends and her brother and now increasingly spending nights away. She says we will probably get back together after the 6 months or maybe sooner, as she still loves me, but I feel shes letting me down gently. She continually says she needs to live alone to find herself and give herself a chance to miss me. She went away this weekend and I honoured what she asked and didnt contact her for 3 days and she of course didnt check in with me either. Feels so strange. Shes coming back tonight (she said she was anyway) and Im very scared what to do or say and what will happen now. Ive never been good about leaving her space and this clearly has led to her feeling suffocated and controlled and this weekend I actually managed it for once, so in a way im hoping she may have taken that as a positive even in a small way. I would like her to stay and we try to work things out rather than break up our home together. Even if that means her having lots of time like this weekend to feel better. What should I do, what should I expect to happen now (think I know this?) Link to comment
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