xonicolemarie Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Im sure this question has been asked numerous amounts of times, but I only started having sex a few weeks ago for the first time and am now super curious, as to what makes a woman bad in bed? Self conscious (hiding herself), quiet, not moving etc. Link to comment
Puck2DaHead Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 This doesn't constitute as bad in bed, but definitely don't moonwalk out of the bedroom so that we (as guys) cannot see your butt. There is nothing sexier than to see you walking out of the room, or anywhere, for that matter, and see that luscious rear-end of yours. I know girls are often self-conscious about their butt, but from my perspective, seeing my girl's entire confident body is SUCH the turn-on. Link to comment
Puck2DaHead Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Btw, I don't think you are going to have earth-shattering love-making sessions in the beginning of your sex life right now. My girlfriend and I don't even remember the first couple times having sex (but we wish we did!), but I'm sure it wasn't as great as it was today. Relax, be creative, and learn about your bodies, but always remember to be in the moment. Don't overthink it! Link to comment
velvette Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 a lot of things are probably similar to what makes a guy bad in bed--lack of enthusiasm, bad breath/bad hygiene, stuff like that. also, unwilling to do it in the light; that could possibly suck. Link to comment
InvisibleWound Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 I am a girl and bisexual, so going to give my 2 cents. I did have a sexual experience with another female in the past and she was very "blah" the whole time until I went down on her... She just was not seeming into it but she was moving her hips and breathing heavy so I figured she was but just was not letting out moans or anything... I think a guy or girl that just lays there like a frozen statue can be a turn off... I want to know I am pleasing my partner not humping some "pillow" so to speak lol... Also sometimes if your making love and your partner starts talking about their day or something that can be a bit of a turn off, mainly because, well... I don't think many people want to do that during sex or hear it, it can kill the mood a bit. Link to comment
jennysilver Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 i think if a woman is not into it. not interested. not comfortable with her body or with sex then she might be "bad". but it is reallly an issue of COMMUNICATION and CONFIDENCE! anyone can be great Link to comment
april15 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 A woman, not in the moment, not reactive, not touching or moving at all, would be bad in bed. No oral at all would also be bad in my book, but that's me, I like to kiss, be kissed, and give and receive oral. Link to comment
Milsch Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 It's an easier question to answer the other way round. Mostly, after you've covered the basics such as hygiene, etc 'bad' is simply a lack of 'good'. And good = adventurous, willing to talk (before, during and after!), coming up with new ideas and suggestions, fun, confident, kinky, etc. Link to comment
Stinkweed Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Not moving would be bad, imo. If the woman just laid there like a piece of firewood, I would just not be into it, and it would end up being bad for both of us. Other than that, I agree with Milsch. Link to comment
FathomFear Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Based on my chats with straight guy friends on this topic, I would say "not moving" tends to be the biggest complaint followed by not being confident with her body. I think the issue is that many women think that guys will be satisfied by their looks alone and that they don't really need to be an active participant in order to make it a good experience for the guy. Seems to be a bad assumption, lol. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Not being comfortable with her body, just laying there, not willing to try new things and what has been mentioned previously. Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 No starfish, please. Link to comment
capilot Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 If you don't like sex, he'll be able to tell, and that will ruin the whole experience for him*. But then, if you don't like sex, then why have it in the first place? That's the very core part of being good in bed: liking sex and letting him know. On a lower level, here's how to be bad in bed: Just lie there. Don't let him know what you like. Don't let him see you naked. Never initiate sex. Be unwilling to try new things. Make him think you're doing him a favor. Take it too seriously. Reach over and check your Facebook messages while doing it. (* Unless he's a jerk and doesn't care if you enjoy it or not.) Link to comment
FathomFear Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Never initiate sex. Oh, I forgot that one. I had a roommate who complained about that incessantly. He was in a 3 year relationship and could count on one hand how often his girlfriend initiated sex. Her reasoning was something to the effect of "It didn't matter to her much and would do it whenever he wanted to". It made him feel like he wasn't desired at all. Link to comment
OkSky Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 Based on my chats with straight guy friends on this topic, I would say "not moving" tends to be the biggest complaint followed by not being confident with her body. I think the issue is that many women think that guys will be satisfied by their looks alone and that they don't really need to be an active participant in order to make it a good experience for the guy. Seems to be a bad assumption, lol. What he said. Plus. Not being the aggressor and constantly needing the man to make a move is a big turn off. Guys like it sometimes when the girl takes charge. Link to comment
zccr3279 Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Don't just lay there. Personally, when a girl does that, I'd rather stop having sex all together. If you don't want to have sex, don't. Guys can tell. Some care, some don't. Link to comment
Snowy Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Basically, if a girl is actively trying to please her partner, even if she's inexperienced, she's good. Link to comment
steve87 Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 No confidence in her body is a major turn off for me! Link to comment
Real Deal Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 besides the things mentioned if a woman 'tries to hard'. Being lame and not into it is of course a turnoff. Bad 'hygene' is one of the biggest for me. The biggest turnon? When a woman is totally present in the moment and enjoying herself. Link to comment
Generation Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 There's a difference between lying there and letting me take charge, and lying there and letting me do 100% of the work. Granted I'm doing most of the work anyhow, if she's not into it, I can sense that and then I won't be into it. There needs to be feedback, or I might as well be humping the hole in my mattress. Link to comment
Notagoodninja Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 I would say inexperience and lack of desire make a chic bad in bed Like if she man handles your penis and just jerks it around like it's a shake weight or something She doesn't do any foreplay at all.. She lays there like a wet spagetti noodle "fulfilling her duties" She lays back and barely moans or makes a sound and she has her eyes closed the whole time and doesn't even try to make any eye contact with you She brings up her past boyfriends while you're laying there naked If she has poor hygeine...HUGE turn off... Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 You're bad in bed if you don't enjoy the sex. Don't fake things, don't do things you aren't comfortable with, don't stay silent as he's hitting your cervix, don't start actual sex until you're warmed up, don't be too self conscious to not bring up your own fantasies/fetishes, don't worry about what he's thinking, don't worry about what you look like... Just, enjoy the sex. Let yourself be satisfied and then naturally express that satisfaction. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 image removed Imitating this and having just about as much emotion after saying 'do me.' Link to comment
Lonewing Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 Lack of physical confidence. it shuts down everything, from her ability to enjoy oral to her ability to even have an orgasm becasue she;s so busy being self conscious about being embarassed about you seeing her body... Complete turn off. Stand up and own the bedroom, already - if you can't stand up as yourself with the lights on, you don't own the bedroom.. Link to comment
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