Sanative Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 I wasn't really sure what forum this belonged in so eh feel free to move it. I've been having problems getting over a girl. A little about me, I'm 21\male and I consider myself moderately attractive. But, the background story is that I went to ( and met her in ) college. We had all of our classes with each other and generally sat/talked with each other everyday. At first I wasn't attracted to her at all really, but she had a lot of sleazebags hitting on her at the time and I could see it was bothering her so I decided to "make friends" with her in order to deter them- which worked rather effectively. Anyway, over the course of a few months we went out to lunch, talked often, and she offered me rides and such when I needed them. Somewhere a long the line I started to develop "feelings" for her. I often thought about ways I could make her happy or make her smile through the day. It's really hard to explain why I developed such strong feelings over a short period of time (months really) but I guess if I had to put it in words, she was just really easy to talk to and I felt like I could trust her with anything + we shared a lot of details about our lives. I've had my share of dates throughout highschool - longest I've ever dated someone was 2 years; but, I can honestly say I've never felt so strongly for anyone. Anyway, on my 21st birthday, some of my friends invited me to a bar and I ended up drinking too much. I texted her, via cellphone, how I felt about her. To make matters worse I used some really sappy line to start the conversation - something along the lines of "you're a diamond in a world filled with rocks". Anyway, she let me down easy by telling me she didn't date (she got a boyfriend probably a month after this). Although, She slowly started to distance herself from me and eventually, I dropped out because I couldn't handle the depression and we lost all contact- It's been about a year now since I've had any contact with her. I created a new facebook, got a new phone with a new # and etc. But every time I hear a sappy love song or I see someone on a magazine cover that looks anything like her, I get depressed. Sometimes I don't even need any outside source; I just think about her. I would say I get depressed about this maybe 4-5-6 times a week. I just want to move on. I've tried dating other people but ended up breaking up with them because I didn't feel as strong for them as I did her. I also have a busy schedule, I have a full time job/ I go to a different college now part time - I go out with friends when I have free time + have a rigorous exercise regimen that I follow religiously.I also have hobbies/vents, IE playing guitar/gaming/reading etc. But it doesn't seem to matter what I do, I just can't get past her. anybody out there that can offer me advice? P.S. I'm sorry this turned out so long, I just didn't feel anybody could give me proper advice without in depth information; Also feel free to ask me questions in order to obtain a better perspective, I'll answer them best I can. Link to comment
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