babybear Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hi I have been with my boyfriend around 4months. Our relationship is very playful and fun. We are pretty pro-active and like to do lots of things with our time, but we also like to have sex a lot, maybe after doing something out and about or before. I have noticed though, we never have serious conversations about our feelings. If I feel depressed about work or any issue, I don't feel like he could be the person I would turn to I feel like I'd have to turn to a friend. Not because he wouldn't want to listen per se, but because that just isn't the nature of our relationship. We never talk about how we feel about each other either. He is forever looking into my eyes and kissing me, but never says anything like you mean the world to me or whatever. No mushy stuff comes out his mouth. What does come out his mouth is constant insulting banter taking the mick out of me and stuff. I realise he must like me or he wouldn't be with me. He calls me everyday and sees me all the time and is always planning things we can do together. But I am struggling to see the difference between a relationship and friends with benefits. I have been in a series of FWB prior to this guy, and they never discussed any feelings for how they felt about me. The difference with them was that they would not speak to me for days and only wanted sex. So my boyfriend is different in that he speaks to me all the time, but he does want sex all the time too. I just don't know what it means to be in a relationship I feel so clueless. I think he thinks I should be reassured that he cares for me, likes me and sees long-term potential and love in me just because he wants to see me all the time and is pro-active. But I feel like I need more than that, I am not reassured by that. But is that my insecurity talking? I don't want him to be telling me everyday that he's smitten with me, but once in a while it would be nice to know we can be serious rather than just playful. I love how playful we are and that we always tickle and make fun of each other, but how am i supposed to know if there is an emotional connection developing? I am not a mind reader. I spoke to him about it last night and he was pretty sad about it all and told me he does really really like me and doesn't want to lose me. But I just wish I didn't have to have a depressing problem conversation with him to get him to say that. Link to comment
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