stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 Hi, I just wanted to post this morning and ask that noone tries to rush this healing process. I have had a really good week and thought I was just about over things. I have though woken this morning distressed and upset, what we feel when we first get dumped does not go away in a hurry, I thought I was there and I'm not, all of the hurt, emptiness, sadness and generally feeling broken are back and hitting hard, thankfully I've not done anything silly like try to date again etc and so am able to not feel guilt. I hope this stops anyone who is rushing through this to slow down and let time do what it has to. A sad friend Link to comment
Kev0s1983 Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 Hey Steve, its a long road my good man up's and down's, side to side, loop da loop, the works. One constant remains - hold the steadfast belief that in time, it will get better. Link to comment
MissSMcc Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 the healing path is definitely not linear, but keep in mind, even if you are walking backward you are still on the right road. gawd i'm philosophical today. Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 Thanks guys, agree with all. Link to comment
jonesyjakk Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 hey steve, what did i tell you man???? one day feeling good 7 days feeling cra99p! 2 days feeling good 6 days feeling cra99p and so on...this is not a bad thing dude, its a good thing, lets you know youre stilla love inside even though you may not feel it right now. this wave comes and goes, i promise you its normal, you are healing my friend, this is healing, you may not think it but i promise you its letting go pain....you feel good, you feel bad, you feel good and then bad.....i swear on my soul my friend....you are doing nicely, ride with it, youve been through the worst, remember what i said about the ROCK BOTTOM???????? ONLY WAY IS UP. JONESY Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 Cheers jonesy, Ur a good lad Link to comment
LoveHearts21 Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 It does suddenly hit you hard again Steve but you'll bounce back up like you did before! and there'll be plenty more good days to come. Maybe it's because it's the weekend and your feeling lonely? I'm keeping myself motivated - it still doesn't take my mind off him but I'm not getting myself upset over him as much. I don't want to speak too soon because I know it will hit me hard again when I least expect it but we'll get through it Do you agree the pain is fading and it's getting easier with time? Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 I completely agree Vic, its definitely getting easier, hopefully ill have another good week now glad to hear you're getting better hon Link to comment
Helpmetoheal Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 Hiya Steve.... here I am trying to put back the pieces yet again! My own fault, I broke NC and it was a nightmare! Guess I like to learn things the hard way. Sp, here goes, 2 days of feeling utterly destroyed, can't wait till the weekend is over and hopefully I can gain some ground on the good feelings! Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 what a c*** day, not happy, i hope this is not what its going to be like for the next 2 days Link to comment
Di84 Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 sorry to read you're having a crap day steve... that makes two of us It will get better... it always does! Onwards and upwards. Link to comment
endy Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 Hi, I just wanted to post this morning and ask that noone tries to rush this healing process. I have had a really good week and thought I was just about over things. I have though woken this morning distressed and upset, what we feel when we first get dumped does not go away in a hurry, I thought I was there and I'm not, all of the hurt, emptiness, sadness and generally feeling broken are back and hitting hard, thankfully I've not done anything silly like try to date again etc and so am able to not feel guilt. I hope this stops anyone who is rushing through this to slow down and let time do what it has to. A sad friend Steve, this happens to me as well buddy. Do not worry, you made it past this once and you will again. Every time that feeling comes up embrace it in your mind and then let it go back down when it's ready. It's all good man. I've seen you at rock bottom, and I've seen you grow already. You are doing fine bud! Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 Thanks my friends, I'm just sad and missing her terribly, keep picturing her beautiful face smiling at me. Not fair is it ? x Link to comment
LoveHearts21 Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 I feel the same. I thought things were getting better but I think it's starting to hit me again now - its going to be one of those nights. Probably because it's saturday night and I know he will be out meeting new women. I'm trying not to cry as I've been getting stronger every day and don't want to hit rock bottom again. They say what you don't know won't hurt you, but it's the not knowing that's bothering me. Have you got any plans for tonight Steve? Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 I'm on my way to Brighton on the train as we speak, taking my kids to ASK for dinner. Link to comment
LoveHearts21 Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 I'm sure they'll help put a smile on your face and take your mind off your ex for a while. Do they stay over at your house tonight? PS, Enjoy your dinner Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 They do yes, nice big pizza for me, Yummie Link to comment
jonesyjakk Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 oh wow.....have a wicked time mate!!! cant wait to see my boy tomorrow....enjoy steve! jonesy Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 Thank jonesy, enjoy your not tomorrow Link to comment
thagator Posted April 30, 2011 Share Posted April 30, 2011 They do yes, nice big pizza for me, Yummie You eat pizza in the UK? Enjoy! Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Share Posted April 30, 2011 We do, next week we get something called a car in England Link to comment
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