How true is it that once a woman closes her heart off to you, you've lost your

[InaDaze87]

chance forever??? This is a question directed more toward women with experience in the subject matter. Guys can chime in as well!!

[Capricorn3]

I think it differs from person to person. For myself, it would depend on what happened in the first place to cause me to shut down. I imagine it would depend on how badly one is hurt. If the hurt is deep enough, then yes, I would close my heart to him forever.

[RedDress]

For me it's true, unfortunately.

 

I will try and try and try and try to make a relationship work. By the time I am done and shut down... it's over. By that time I have no more "try" left. Even if the situation is resolved, I am mad that I had to try THAT hard and I'm skeptical that I won't be put in that situation again once things have 'settled' again.

 

But perhaps I'm guilty of not breaking up soon enough...?

[d24]

I'd say something like that is said in hurt, there's always hope given time, space and enough incentive/apologising - but it really depends on what happened

[OptomisticGirl]

For the most part yes but it depends. I was cheated on so many times and after a certain time during the break I emotionally shut down from him and I knew once I did, no matter what, I wasn't going back.

[learning2relax]

It took me 15+ years of hanging in there. A relationship that was wrought with break ups, broken promises, etc. Looking back now, I think it was a slow death 10 years in the making. But there was one day that did it for me after all that time and all that I endured. And on that day, as hurt as I was from the events of that day, I mourned our relationship one last time because I knew there was no going back. Ever. Finally.

 

We are friends now and genuinely care for each other as well as love. I know though that I can never ever see him in that light again. Not possible.

 

I am grateful to have him in my life as a friend.

[superfox]

True for me, have no feelings towards exes whatsoever.

[BriarRose]

chance forever??? This is a question directed more toward women with experience in the subject matter. Guys can chime in as well!!

 

Yes, but this applies to men, too. I don't believe you can fall back in love once you have fallen out of love.

[apple89]

it had happened to me, that once its out of my heart its done and no matter how hard i try it just wont

 

however this onlyhappened when i get tired of the situation, tired of the other person not changing and keep hurting me

[d24]

Yes, but this applies to men, too. I don't believe you can fall back in love once you have fallen out of love.

 

I disagree with this strongly.

 

My wife and I have both fallen out of love before (years before we married) and we worked on it and got it back. Things were never the same, but that was fine because obviously things weren't working the way they were at the time. What we got back was just as good - though I'm firmly against the concept of comparing loves - they're always different.

 

Love is an emotion, and emotions are controlled by (or let's say heavily influenced by) thoughts. If there's enough bad thoughts in your head which won't go away, the chances of recreating anything close to love are remote. But good thoughts can outweigh bad, and in the face of genuine regret, genuine change, and as I've said before - enough time, space and apologies - I firmly believe that any bridge can be repaired (if both parties work towards it).

 

Please don't be down on love, it's the greatest gift you can ever give or receive.

[kuteknish]

if there was a "like" button on this site, i'd click it...

[piruru]

Yes, but this applies to men, too

 

Agreed. True for men too.

[baguette]

if there was a "like" button on this site, i'd click it...

 

Give him a positive rep there's a "badge" under his user name on his post.