To break NC or to ignore?

[jaydee19]

It's been a little over a month since I started NC, but the thing is, tomorrow is my ex's birthday. I am unsure of whether I should wish him a happy birthday and therefore break NC, or if I should ignore it altogether?

I don't want to come off as childish and bitter, which I am pretty sure he will think.

[ReneinDC]

I wished my ex a HB and got nothing in return. Wished I hadn't done it so I say NO. He's not your problem anymore and what he thinks should be of no concern to you.

[SVSV]

Probably best to let it go.

 

As a rule, exes should stay historical, not in current events.

 

And since you've only been NC a month, anything that happens or doesn't happen could set you back.

[ncmii]

I suggest you stick with your first idea and keep up the NC.

If he wants to contact you, he will find a way.

Better safe than sorry.

[HeartGoesOn]

No, leave the past where it should be...in the past.

[jaydee19]

Thank you for the reassurance. I have not contacted him, and plan on keep it that way.

[Maverick1984]

If you want your ex to really suffer. Make your life as fulfilling as possible. Then when he gets back in touch, forgive him but don't accept his request to be friends. Then tell him that your friends have never broken your heart and don't expect that from a friend.

People won't learn about value or appreciation until someone like that comes along and draws the line.

[The_Seeker]

If you want your ex to really suffer. Make your life as fulfilling as possible. Then when he gets back in touch, forgive him but don't accept his request to be friends. Then tell him that your friends have never broken your heart and don't expect that from a friend.

People won't learn about value or appreciation until someone like that comes along and draws the line.

 

Aw, Maverick, you must be a sweet friend. =]

[Maverick1984]

Aw, Maverick, you must be a sweet friend. =]

 

Hun, i'll be honest, but the reason why i developed this attitude is because i was too nice and too available. I never put myself first and always valued others more than myself... The minute i started to value myself, that's when i realised that the people that mistreated me wasn't worth my time. The people that appreciate your time regardless of how giving you are, will never try and take advantage of you. This includes lying and going behind your back and flirting/seeing other people. The people that do aren't worth your time.

 

If you're a troublemaker, then i don't believe you, cos i can be just as if not worse

[The_Seeker]

Hun, i'll be honest, but the reason why i developed this attitude is because i was too nice and too available. I never put myself first and always valued others more than myself... The minute i started to value myself, that's when i realised that the people that mistreated me wasn't worth my time. The people that appreciate your time regardless of how giving you are, will never try and take advantage of you. This includes lying and going behind your back and flirting/seeing other people. The people that do aren't worth your time.

 

If you're a troublemaker, then i don't believe you, cos i can be just as if not worse

 

That's what I came into realization right after breakup. LOL I stay away from people with really negativity and mistreatment. I'm doing better. Thank God. >_

 

Don't believe me, huh? ;] How dangerous. I accept the challenge.