LightbulbSun Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 I've never heard this statement before, and to be honest, I think it's a bit insane. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 I don't believe I play hard to get at all. I return calls. I text back. I set up dates and give good reasons for canceling (and reschedule when I must cancel). But, I would say I'm aloof. Not aloof in an "I-don't-care" sense. But, in a secure sense. If he doesn't call, I just find something else to do...he'll either call or not. Messaging him will do me no good. If he's a tad late, I don't question his feelings for me. I don't over-analyze or try to break down everything as a sign of interest or disinterest. Most signs aren't actually signs but something you place there. So, I just sit up tall and happy and wait for them. They know I like them and I'll be good to them when/if they decide to make a move but I try not to make a lot of moves myself in the beginning. I mirror their actions in encouragement. For many dating is a game of doubt and insecurity and guessing. But, dating for me is about providing security and being direct. Link to comment
sarahpuff21 Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Well, in my experience, every time I have played hard to get it has worked and the guy has fallen head over heels for me, but every time that I have given into my desire to just be available and made it obvious to the guy that I am interested, they have seemed to be turned off by that and lost interest. People want what they can't have and women like being chased. It is a stupid game, but I think it is true. Link to comment
DN Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Well, in my experience, every time I have played hard to get it has worked and the guy has fallen head over heels for me, but every time that I have given into my desire to just be available and made it obvious to the guy that I am interested, they have seemed to be turned off by that and lost interest. People want what they can't have and women like being chased. It is a stupid game, but I think it is true. May I ask how many relationships you have had and what your current relationship status is? Link to comment
sarahpuff21 Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 I have had 4 serious relationships and a few not serious ones. I recently got out of a 3 year relationship and I am dating. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Sarapuff, it's true! when I am all sweet and available, the calls start to lessen. when i am not so available funny how they start to pick back up again. Link to comment
sarahpuff21 Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Something funny that I noticed, maybe it's just a coincidence, but on this forum (in this post) it seems like all the men aren't even aware of this game and/or think it is crazy, but all the women say it's true! haha... Link to comment
DN Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 I think the true test as to whether it really works is if people are able to sustain a long-term relationship having behaved like that - compared to those that didn't. Link to comment
sarahpuff21 Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 All of the times I have played hard to get with a guy, it has turned into a long term relationship. When I haven't played hard to get, it hasn't. That is unless I decided I didn't want the relationship to go anywhere. Link to comment
DN Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Well, what constitutes a long term relationship from my perspective of a 35 year marriage may be a little different than yours. Link to comment
sarahpuff21 Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Touche....well, maybe we should start another thread... Link to comment
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