jjennmac96 Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 My wife's birthday was last week. I bought her a Ipod Touch for her birthday. She added 3 different sex apps on it. I find that really strange as she only wants sex with me once a week and is not a very sexual person, at least thats what I thought. I questioned her about it casually. She said she put them on there to get position ideas. I asked for who she responded with who do you think? she never said me. I keep thinking she put them on there to get ideas for sex with someone else. Is it possible she is cheating and I'm right? or am I nuts? Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Oh jeez. Unless you have other things to make you question her cheating I'd let it go. Of course its not cheating. Link to comment
jjennmac96 Posted July 21, 2010 Author Share Posted July 21, 2010 Just an odd behavior change. She already had a brief affair in March, so I am trying to rebuild trust. It's tough though when she does something out of her normal behavior. That's why I want to know if I'm being too sensitive or if I'm onto something. Link to comment
DN Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 If she had an affair in March then I don't blame you for being untrusting. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 If she had an affair in March then I don't blame you for being untrusting. Yup. Especially if there's been additional odd behaviours. Link to comment
turnera Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 I would be installing a keylogger on everything she has. Link to comment
capilot Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 (Never mind; I see that she's already had one affair. You're not nuts.) Link to comment
Longview01 Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 I would be installing a keylogger on everything she has. To be honest if it gets to that sort of point then your better off just ending the relationship. If theres no trust, theres no relationship Link to comment
Staple Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Don't take back women who have affairs, they will never stop simply because they have no respect for you at all and think of you as a pansy. You know whats worse is you are married to this person. I can't believe someone would cheat on a marriage. Terrible. Link to comment
maelstrom Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Staple's post is not true in my case. I cheated, I do not think of my husband as a pansy, and it didn't happen again. Quite the opposite, I found his ability to forgive and move on very moving. Our relationship has a lot of problems which may or may not be resolved, but there are things I respect him for a great deal and that is one of them. Link to comment
jjennmac96 Posted July 21, 2010 Author Share Posted July 21, 2010 Staple's post is not true in my case. I cheated, I do not think of my husband as a pansy, and it didn't happen again. Quite the opposite, I found his ability to forgive and move on very moving. Our relationship has a lot of problems which may or may not be resolved, but there are things I respect him for a great deal and that is one of them. Is he still suspicious? How long has it been? Link to comment
maelstrom Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 It's been 7 1/2 years. No he's not suspicious as far as I can tell. Link to comment
Unreasonable Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 It's totally possible for someone to cheat and feel so bad that they never do it again. But it usually always scars the SO permanently. Not that they can never trust you, but they will be far less likely to just give the benefit of the doubt if something questionable happens. Link to comment
Carnatic Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 I don't blame you for being untrusting, her affair is still in the recent past. However if she doesn't come accross as very sexual to you yet had an affair and is now looking up sexual positions it could be that she wasn't satisfied sexually for whatever reason (there are a million reasons and either one of you or neither one could be at fault) and is now looking for ideas to spice things up and try something different with you. It could be that she put them on there for your benefit because after seeing that cheating on you was wrong, she feels that she needs to try harder sexually with you. So I wouldn't condemn her simply for having sex apps on her phone. But you're right to worry. Hopefully they are there for your benefit and the trust will gradually come back. Link to comment
jjennmac96 Posted July 23, 2010 Author Share Posted July 23, 2010 I don't blame you for being untrusting, her affair is still in the recent past. However if she doesn't come accross as very sexual to you yet had an affair and is now looking up sexual positions it could be that she wasn't satisfied sexually for whatever reason (there are a million reasons and either one of you or neither one could be at fault) and is now looking for ideas to spice things up and try something different with you. It could be that she put them on there for your benefit because after seeing that cheating on you was wrong, she feels that she needs to try harder sexually with you. So I wouldn't condemn her simply for having sex apps on her phone. But you're right to worry. Hopefully they are there for your benefit and the trust will gradually come back. That's what I originally thought. I always doubt myself. Link to comment
jenna-is-here Posted July 26, 2010 Share Posted July 26, 2010 I dont think installing sex apps is cheating. I do see b/c of the past you are constantly on high alert. I would keep it on the back burner and see if you see other pattern changes. Link to comment
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