Really confused

[Star_Light]

OK, my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now. I love him very much and he loves me too. The thing is we've been having kind of a rough time lately. We've been getting into a lot of stupid fights but somehow we always make up and stay together. Afterwards I'm glad that I stayed with him because he means everything to me. But over the weekend we got into the worst fight yet and I ended up slapping him. I felt extremely bad and a little shocked at myself afterwards. I told him that I loved him and I was so sorry. That I was just so angry with everything lately. He said he forgives me, but the next night instead of being with me he hung out with 3 of his little girl friends, whom I'm not too fond of. They saw the bruise I had left from me slapping him and they got pissed.

 

Late that night his little friends decide to instant message me and starts cussing me out. Saying I don't deserve my BF, I'm a self absorbed, stupid, controlling, little pathetic b****, and they hope that them and me never meet again. Among other things that I shall not repeat. I sent my boyfriend the conversation expecting him to be pissed off at them. But no! He doesn't really seem to care that much! He doesn't even want to confront them about it cause they're his best friends! Which really makes me angry. If I say one negative thing about them, or any of his friends, he gets mad but then on the flip side he allows them to talk to me like that! I know I certainly wouldn't like it if one of my friends jumped down my boyfriends throat. I know they were just 'defending' him or whatever, but still they had no right to speak to me that way, ya know?

 

So, I told him to pick me or his friends that did this, and he says he can't do that. I know it isn't right for me to make him choose but I can't be in a relationship where my own boyfriend won't take up for me and is like best friends, with now enemies of mine. I really do love him but I feel so disappointed and disgusted with him. I know if I leave him I'll be so miserable but I'm unhappy right now. I just don't know what I should do..

 

Any advice is appreciated.

[crazybabe513]

i say dump him because he should care about other people cussin you out...I know my boyfriend does...

[brokenpogostick]

I agree with the previous post. he should be getting on them about that behavior. True as it may be that you guys fought & whatever, it still doesn't make it right for them to come and judge you like that. he's not respecting you, kick him to the curb.

[00Spartan00]

Well I feel that the #1 rule in a relationship is to respect and appreciate your b/f or g/f. This means NO hitting in any circumstances short of joking around. But this also means to stick up for your b/f or g/f always. My BEST friend's g/f and i get into it sometime, and he jumps down my throat. I go back at him than and we get into a huge fight. Point is, She is still his g/f and we are still best friends. This means he should be able to jump down these girls throats(in a NONsexual way ofcourse) and they shouldn't be offended by it *IF they really are his BEST friends* Now take this however you will, but as a guy i can tell you that guys ALWAYS try to leave their options open. If something goes wrong with a g/f, you never piss of the friends that are girls you have, cause they could hook you up with someone else. Either way, you only slapped him once and as long as you are sincere in your apology and you don't do it again, he should quite being such a A-hole. This is ofcourse if things really happened the way you say they did.

Good Luck,

00Spartan00

[ComputerGuy]

It could be that he is just gutless and needs to apologise to you, and mean it, as well as to start standing up to people. I know if anyone said a bad word about my g/f, regardless of whether they were my best friend or not, I'd tell them to backup and apologise very quickly.