mitch8484 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Hi all, i'm new to this and hope someone can help. My girlfriend (ex now) recently split up with me after 2 years and said she just wanted to be friends. She has depression and when she started taking different medication thats when she broke up with me. I started a new job about 18 months ago which drained me and I had no energy to do anything when I got home so we ended up sitting in my parents house watching tv so now realise it must have been quite boring for her. Before I started my new job things were great we went out all the time and done things couple should do. A few times we werent getting on I noticed she was texting someone and read that she was telling another guy I was an a*** and I got jealous, I know I shouldn't have looked at her phone but she wasn't happy and we sorted things out but I kept getting paranoid about other guys that were texting. Anyway the night she split up with me she told me she didn't want anyone else and explained the texts she was getting were innocent and I believe her and can't believe how stupid i've been. She has split up with me and I asked her when she will change her status on a social networking site and she changed it to "its complicated", she says she done this so noone would think she's single and looking which made me believe her even more when she said she didn't want anyone else. She says she wants to lose weight and be herself again and look how she did when I fitst met her, I love her no matter what she looks like. I know I can make things better in the relationship ad she even said the night of the breakup that part of her was saying to give it another try but then she said she couldn't and had to sort herself out. After we had got everything out in the open we actually had a good laugh and got on better than we had in the last 18 months, I know most of what I done didn't help her depression but I know I can do it if she gives me another chance. I told her it was hard for me and tried to get her back the followin day but she says I was making it 10 times harder for her. We got some sleep and I texted and said sorry for pestering her earlier and asked if we could still be friends, I called and she answered, we got on and when I asked if I could see her the next day she said she would come over now (10pm) which she did and we got on and there was no tension. I will see her agin today as she agreed and she said she would still do things with me on a daily basis just as friends for now. I want more and know I can fix this. I know she cant go on with us bickering all the time and doesn't believe me when I tell her it will stop and I'll be more supportive, maybe becuase I said that to her once before and it didn't happen, I know I pushed her in to this but now that i've not got her i'm a complete mess and will do naything to get her back, She says in the future after we've built a good relationship then she might give things another go but that we'll need to wait and see. Is she doing this to see if I do change and will she gain trust in me again and fall in love with me again? She's not pushing me away or cutting me off as she still texts and sees me, this is a good sign? Does anyone have any feedback or thoughts? I would appreciate it very much sorry for it being so long. Link to comment
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