KonaScott Posted May 18, 2010 Share Posted May 18, 2010 Trying to make this as factual as possible to get the most out of this post… I am a 39 year old male with the same old story with regards to sex and my wife….hardly any to speak of. It’s been at least (3) months since the last time we made love. Before that it was (3) months, and before that it was (6) months. She professes to enjoy sex but seemingly has to be plastered to do it. We’ve been married for over 10 years now and the situation has progressively been getting worse especially after having our second child four years ago. We separated about 3 years ago and reconciled after 4 months with some marriage counseling. The separation was initiated by me due to similar circumstances and our marriage had been better up until about a year and half ago. Since I moved back in, she has gained approximately 50lbs and developed psoriasis which leaves her with sores on different locations on her body. Not the most attractive thing in the world, but I am willing to look past it and have told her so as I do still love her. We have talked about her weight numerous times and she hems and haws and ultimately does nothing about it. She also has been to the doctor for her skin condition but I am not sure if she regularly applies the medication. I’m not sure what she is trying to do here, but it kinda seems she has no interest in addressing my needs and is trying to push me away. I try to do the best I can like cleaning up after the kids, dropping them off at school sometimes, taking them out for hours at a time on weekends and some weekdays, doing a ton of stuff around the house on weekends, and not going out but maybe once every six months for a drink with a friend. Overall our relationship is good and we often times have a few laughs with the kids, but there is always this “thing” right below the surface with me that my needs aren’t being met. What seems to be a recurring theme recently is that I have come home to find her laying in bed at 4:45 in the afternoons watching TV. Today I had had it. I am very upfront when expressing myself and do not shy away from making my feelings known so I asked her what she had done after I dropped off my second child at school? She said she took a shower then went and picked him up. Huh?? What happened to the other two hours? That was it for me. Our fridge is empty and things need to be done around the house for goodness sake!! Without getting heated, I let her know that things needed to change with regard to everything…sex, drinking, weight management, time management, etc. I asked her to remember what we had gone through before when we separated the first time. Wanna know what her response was? There wasn’t one. I don’t know what to think here…all I know is that my feelings for her seem to be fading. Link to comment
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