LAYAAN Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 This post is not about any specific situation. Background - We all have been told "Don't take rejection personally. Don't take disrespectful behavior personally. When a person treats you like that, it says a lot of who they are. They would do it to anyone in your shoes." "Its not about you, its about them." My issue - I really have a hard time believing it. Really, seriously. Don't you think its just some run-of-the-mill answer that is supposed to relieve some pain caused by insulting behavior and rejection? I mean seriously, think about it. Consider some examples. - You are rejected because you are not pretty, hot, tall, short, slim, curvy enough. - Because he isn't feeling the chemistry in 1st date itself. - Because someone else is available, if not, he atleast has a hope that he can do better than you. - Because you are not making enough money according to his/her standard. So, how is it not about you? It IS very much about you. Now on to the behavior part. When they suddenly change their behavior towards you, act rude, start avoiding your calls, start lying, their eyes start wandering, how is it not about you? Its expected that the person is polite and comes clean and tells you that they are not happy and want to move on. I completely understand, that they should not act rude because you because you look a certain way. They should not make you feel low because you don't make enough money according to their standard. But lets face it. We live in a world where people are losing etiquettes, manners, politeness, humility. Mostly the attitude is "If you don't measure up to my standard, I'm on to the next one and since I've decide that you are not my type, I don't want to waste any more time." But again, how is it about them and not you? They wouldn't behave rudely if you were their type or hot enough, pretty enough, rich enough, whatever. NOTE - I'm a sweet, honest person. I don't treat people rudely. If they are not what I'm looking for, I don't go on a date with them. I screen profiles (was into online dating) well, ask Qs and go on a date when I see prospects. I don't leave people hanging, but just like everyone else, I've had more than fair share of tough dating world. Link to comment
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.