hater13 Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 My ex broke up with me almost 4 weeks ago. It's been hard for me to cope with the break up, he insisted that we stay friends (best friends) saying that I was a very important part of his life and he didn't want to lose that. Our break up was very emotional, we were both crying and upset. The month leading up to our break up was hard we started fighting over petty things and both ended up saying things that hurt each other. I'm the forgiving type, so I would always "forgive and forget". My ex on the other hand has issues letting go of the past and would always bring up things I said out of anger that I never meant. My ex broke up with me at the end of March (march is when our fights started). I think these fights were all quite stupid and could have easily been resolved IF my ex was willing to speak about them and sort them about. I was always the one trying to find out the root of our issues while my ex would just not want to speak about it. I intended to do NC right after our break up, while on the phone with my ex I told him I was saying goodbye forever but he refused and wanted to still talk to me. NC was harder for me then I expected, I ended up still contacting him for a week after out break up. Doing the usual- begging, pleading, crying, even calming telling him we could make it work. Towards the last few days of our contact I told him I had come to terms with our break up (I really hadn't) and that I had put his gifts away and deleted a file of all our pictures and emails (my ex had told me he deleted his as well). After I told him I got rid of his things my ex informed me that he really didn't delete his folder of my pictures and memories, but was glad he told me he did (so that I could move on). I asked him if he still loved me and responded "yes" so I asked then why aren't we together? He replied "i don't know". I even asked him if we'd ever get back together once again he replied "i don't know". He said that at the moment he wanted to be alone and that he "deserved" to be alone. So after having a lengthy conversation with him, I told him that I couldn't possibly get over him while still being in contact with him and he said ok I won't contact you until uni starts up again (september). I agreed and said my last goodbyes to him, thanking him for the learning experience of our relationship and wished him an early happy birthday (his birthday was the next day). It has been 3 weeks since I last had contact with him and he's suddenly started to act unusual on facebook. He was never a fan of social networking sites but had made facebook about 2 months before we got together. He did not delete me on facebook OR msn and started to become highly active on facebook (he never had been before). He even said to me during our relationship that he only uses facebook to talk to people he normally doesn't have regular contact with. He even started making comments on pictures of a girl he has recently met at his uni (we go to different uni's) that are VERY similar to the ones he left on my pictures!! He even changed his msn nickname to "I love you ____" the name being a childhood friend he's basically using to get over me. I asked him during our week of contact if he was over it and he said "no". Which makes no sense to me, afterall he's the one that ended it? Shouldn't he already have no feeling about me or not care at all? Our mutual friends were quite shocked by our breakup my friend even claimed that I was playing an april fools prank on her!! All his actions and what he said to me shortly after the break up just make me think he's confused. He only agreed to NC because he wanted to do whatever would make it easily FOR ME. So tell me your thought on the situation Thanks for reading my lengthy and possibly badly written post Link to comment
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