bungalo Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 Hi All, As tempting as it is to believe that people behave predictably following a breakup, the fact remains that we're all individuals with our own peculiarities, unique qualities and characteristics. As a lot of you probably know, I am back with my girl after a breakup of 5 months. One thing that helped me a lot was trying to stay positive about the prospect of a reconciliation-while letting go (as much as possible) and preparing for it not to happen as well. Popular wisdom says to be detached and completely let go..but how do you let go of someone you really love? I think it's more about accepting that you can't control your ex, even if you still love them. I also believe in reading lots and lots of material on effective communication. If you really really love your ex, then it's important to accept them the way they are. It's also vital that you drop your ego which tends to nurture thoughts such as, making them jealous, fantasies of making them crawl back to you...etc. I think the most important thing though is to be honest with yourself and your ex while maintaining healthy boundaries. I tended to be too reactive to every little thing she did or said...now I am a lot more composed thoughtful and balanced. Link to comment
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