confused everything was going perfect

[gregfb81]

A couple of days ago my girlfriend broke up with me and her excuse was that she was confused and she needs to figure things out. She keeps telling me it had nothing to do with me and that she needs to be friends with me now. I don't understand what she could be confused about. She says she has girl problems or something. What could this be? Also are relationship was going PERFECT before we went on this ski trip which i think is the reason we broke up. She was sending me mix signals the whole trip kinda ignoring me and always talking with her girlfriends. So after the trip i told her how she made me feel like shit the whole weekend and i thought we were making up and then all of a sudden she hit me with this confused shit. I dont know what to do now. I really want to get her back but i dont know if i should try to get her jealous or keep reminding her how i feel (even though she told me not to) and also she says she still wants to talk and hangout on the weekends and stuff what does this mean? This is confusing the shit out of me what should i do?

[SwingFox]

Hi Greg,

 

First of all welcome to eNotalone.com and thank you for sharing your questions with us. I am sorry to hear that things didn't go the way you had them planned.

 

Sometimes two people get too close too each other and after a while things are being taken for granted. It is hard to say wether or not this happened in your situation, but it general accepted that to grow together more, sometimes a couple need a little break. It looks like that this happened to your g/f.

 

You could go two ways from here:

 

1) Stick by her side and be her friend. There is a possibility that you guys grow back together again. However, this takes patience... more or less. You have to be ready to be that patient.

 

2) Break away entirely. This gives you the opportunity to move on.

 

For me it's hard to say which option works best for you, but I do know that the only obligation you have in life is the obligation for you to be happy. Do know that if you are not happy, you cannot make someone else happy.

 

I hope this helps you to make a sound decision and I wish you good luck with this.

 

~ SwingFox ~

[simulacra]

It's all speculation at this point since she's not telling you concrete reasons for her decision. The "girl" reasons could be a lot of things. Maybe her girlfriends don't like you or don't think you're good enough for her and that's having an impact on how she sees your relationship. Maybe she's developed feelings for someone else and doesn't want to hurt you by cheating or doesn't know how to tell you the truth. Maybe she has some personal problems, health issues, family problems, that she feels she can't discuss with you. Maybe she's just having a really hard time personally (ie. depressed or stressed out) and needs to be alone for a while. It could be anything. If you want to know for sure, you need to just ask her and hope she respects you enough to tell you the truth at least.

[dazedpunk1607306446]

hey. definintely dont make her jelous. it will probably just backfire. what i think she means is she is having doubts about ur relationship and needs time to think it over weather she wants to be with her. she is taking a break from u, not breaking up. just reassure her u love her, and that u can be better, but dont pester her and harass her and hope everything works