Scorpion Fury Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 Yeah I think that was harsh IMO. At the end of the day personality is way more important than looks, of course you do need some attraction. But that can change, however looks fade. But the OP is young, no need for him to get serious in relationships just yet. I personally don't think that avy is him btw. no it's him. he told me. Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 Lol today she sent me like a 5 page text saying how she didn't deserve me and that she didn't think it would work, so I just responded "K bye". I guess it worked itself out so thanks guys for all of your help! She probably didn't like your face. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 feel so badly for this poor girl. In many ways, she's lucky he's no longer part of her life. MissFirecracker - She probably didn't like your face. I totally agree with BOTH responses above. Link to comment
Iakasot Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I totally agree with BOTH responses above. I disagree, I think the way he handled it is a lot better than saying "ohhh you're such a great friend, you're so important to me". Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I disagree, I think the way he handled it is a lot better than saying "ohhh you're such a great friend, you're so important to me". You don't have to lie, or embellish or treat anyone with kid gloves. But, again, you also don't have to be entirely callous either. There is a middleground. Oh, you know, something akin to "I understand. It's been nice knowing you. I wish you well." Link to comment
absinthe Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I suspect that if the shoe were on the other foot, the same individuals who find this funny or cool or acceptable behaviour, would themselves be crying up a storm. There are ways to disengage without being callous. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 ^^^^ haha. negative. i'm not psycho enough to cry my eyes out because someone I decided I didn't wanna see anymore wasn't concerned about my decision. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I guess what's concerning me here is that the level of disrespect (and yes, it's disrespect) is directly related to her attractiveness. If she had been hotter, than he might have ended things with her more gently. Is that really a message you want to send, OP? That how you treat women is directly proportional to how hot they are to you? I realize you're a devoutly Christian guy, and while I'm not... I think the Golden Rule would really apply here. "Treat others as you yourself would wish to be treated." Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 By the way I was joking about that being him in the pic. I doubt it's him. Link to comment
Ashley1640 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I'm not justifying what Blue did. But... at 17, hell if a guy I didn't want to be with said all of that and i was irritated and frustrated with it all I would've been like kcya, laters! With age comes maturity, in most cases. Give him a few years. That avatar isn't him though, can't you see the man in the pic was cropped out of his original background and placed on a pretty blue screen? it's all fuzzy around the edges. no boy at 17 is that fully developed anyway, takes a few years for them to mature physically. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I'm not justifying what Blue did. But... at 17, hell if a guy I didn't want to be with said all of that and i was irritated and frustrated with it all I would've been like kcya, laters! With age comes maturity, in most cases. Give him a few years. That avatar isn't him though, can't you see the man in the pic was cropped out of his original background and placed on a pretty blue screen? it's all fuzzy around the edges. no boy at 17 is that fully developed anyway, takes a few years for them to mature physically. I hesitate to agree with that because everyone matures at a different pace. I have to admit, at 17, I was far more polite and respectful than I probably am today. Well... I shouldn't say that. I'm polite in situationally appropriate times and not polite when the situation requires it. At 17, I'd be polite no matter what. So who knows. In the end though, super rude! Link to comment
jonny15 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 And how many people actually get the whole package? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 And how many people actually get the whole package? I did. No one should settle. It's not fair to either person. Link to comment
Ashley1640 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I did. No one should settle. It's not fair to either person. I agree!! Be picky and find what you are truly looking for. Some of it find the other faster than others. But.. don't be mean =/ Link to comment
jonny15 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I did. No one should settle. It's not fair to either person. It's not reasonable for someone to only look for that. Most people will never get that. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 It's not reasonable for someone to only look for that. Most people will never get that. You shouldn't be "looking for the full package". As in, you shouldn't have a check list of things you want and don't want and treat dating like an audition for a part. However, you shouldn't stick with a person you aren't attracted to mentally and physically. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 You shouldn't be "looking for the full package". As in, you shouldn't have a check list of things you want and don't want and treat dating like an audition for a part. However, you shouldn't stick with a person you aren't attracted to mentally and physically. Someone mentally and physically attractive is probably the total package right? If not....then what is it? Not everyone can have both. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Someone mentally and physically attractive is probably the total package right? If not....then what is it? Not everyone can have both. Yes, I would equate complete mental and physical attraction to the full package. You can have both if you be the best you you can be. Link to comment
Ashley1640 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I found my 'total package' - and he thinks im his total package too!!! so it can happen.. and i think it happens more than you'd think because everyone finds perfection in their lover, and even learns to love their flaws. That's what is so awesome xD Link to comment
jonny15 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 You can have both if you be the best you you can be. Meh....I really doubt it....unless I were to get super lucky. Like winning the lottery lucky. Link to comment
Iakasot Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I don't think people ever get the full package, they just think they do, or they do temporarily until either one of them changes. Either what they want changes, or what the other person can provide does. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I'll either get the whole package or I'll be alone. Link to comment
Ashley1640 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I'll either get the whole package or I'll be alone. Aaahahaha I laughed so hard. Awesome. Why are people so pessimistic about love and happiness and finding the love of your life? If you have that attitude you will probably be lonely for the rest of your life anyway. =( Everyone is beautiful in their own and unique ways. But you can also be an extremely ugly person, even if you are beautiful on the outside. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 No, I meant I won't settle for someone that's not my whole package. So if I never find it, I guess that's that. Being alone doesn't scare me. I don't need a man to complete me. Link to comment
notsogood Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 No, I meant I won't settle for someone that's not my whole package. So if I never find it, I guess that's that. Being alone doesn't scare me. I don't need a man to complete me. Can I say BAM!!!?!?!?! Link to comment
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