Keraron Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 Where does infidelity start? What is the main reason for its existence? Do you think there could be one major reason that, if tackled well, can lead to avoiding infidelity? Do you think infidelity might also be a problem caused by society (attitudes about it, excitement/adventure about intrigues in, films/soap operas)? I think one reason may be: dissatisfaction with oneself. If more people worked to be satisfied with themselves they wouldn't need extra attention when they are already in a relationship. I think this may also be a major reason for promiscuity, breaking up, mate poaching, and everything that can ruin romantic relationships... Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 I think infidelity starts when you start thinking about it. I also believe that when you feel the urge to cheat, it is usually due to something being wrong with the relationship and has little to due with the person you are contemplating having an affair with. The best thing you can do is admit to yourself that you are being immoral, stay far away from the person you're contemplating having the affair with (just don't allow a situation to arise), and find and fix whatever is wrong in your relationship. Link to comment
NowandZen Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 Two reasons for infidelity: 1 - A person simply cannot accept the idea of monogamy or 2- One's relationship is leaving an emotional need unfulfilled. Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 imo- movies, tv... and fairytales give a false impression of what relationships are made of... they give this romantic view ... so when people are in relationships and that butterfly on top of the world ... romantic feeling is gone- people tend to stray instead of working to keep that feeling. People are quick to divorce- a large percentage of adults and dating aged people come from broken homes so they never saw the workings of a real relationship and all it takes to keep it alive. i think people give up too quickly - and because of finances and living arrangements and children .. they stay together- but are unfulfilled so they stray. i think people need to realize that relationships are not all romance and sex... its two individuals meshing their lives and sometimes its not all fun and games. Link to comment
arcadefire Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 I definitely believe that people who cheat are just selfish individuals who have no self control and have a weak character. Link to comment
on0s1111 Posted November 8, 2009 Share Posted November 8, 2009 At a minimum, two things. Emptiness in themselves and/or the relationship, and opportunity. Outside validation (emotionally and/or sexually) serves to temporarily fill the void. I feel it is worth noting that emptiness in the wandering partner cannot truly be filled by just a relationship, no matter how dedicated the betrayed partner is. Unfortunately, the betrayed partner acted as a working crutch for awhile but it simply cannot last. The feel good chemicals inevitably wear off. Emptiness in just the relationship, however, can certainly be worked on. But that is a decision that both partners have to be willing to address and work towards. Infidelity is often the cowardly way the wandering partner chose to throw in the towel because (as I once heard somebody put it) not many have the courage to jump out of a plane without a parachute. Mind you, this analogy doesn't necessarily imply that the plane was "going down", it could have been flying along quite fantastically. Link to comment
mikem Posted November 8, 2009 Share Posted November 8, 2009 Here are a few things that increase the likelhood of a person being a chronic cheater: 1) They were abused in some way. 2) If their parents practiced infidelity, the likelyhood of them being unfaithful increases. 3) If a person is bipolar, or has some mental disorder, they are more likely to cheat. 4) Low self-esteem 5) Unwillingness to take responsibility for their actions, playing the victim 6) Trying to fill some kind of void and thinking that the problem is 'out their' rather then within. 7) Lack of morality or spiritual base. Cheating is still an 'option'. It's ultimately rooted in selfishness, but those are some 'indicatators'. People are ultimately responsible for their decisions, regardless of their background, but those are a few things you can look for as far as the likelihood of a person cheating. Link to comment
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