No matter how far you go...

[Anonymous3]

I'm in friggin Africa right now, and last night I had to just go to sleep to stop thinking about her. Mainly because of how much we talked about this particular trip (it's business) that took a year to finally happen, things she told me she'd do to help remind me of her.

 

I've decided I probably need to read this forum a little more than the getting back together one...I think everyone should start here actually, instead of assuming you'll get back together. She never answered the email I sent a couple of weeks ago, basically telling her how I still felt and leaving the door open for a little while, granted I told her in the email that she didn't have to. Still thought maybe she'd at least acknowledge my existence, but since a small post breakup chat, I've heard nothing from her. I've been out on a date, and talking to people since, and I still can't imagine myself without her.

 

Hopefully when I actually start getting to work here it'll stop again. After this there is the potential that I fly to the Mediterranean and work on a couple of cruise ships before I go home to the states...I really try hard to be mad at her for abandoning me like this, and to think about all the times she'd basically shun me when I went to her house so she wouldn't have to drive...

 

It stinks to finally realize that this is probably for the best...because sooner or later I have to go through all the trouble of finding someone else, and re-building the amount of time it takes between two people to have something more than a simple infatuation. Hopefully the next person I find will return the amount of effort I put in equally, and not just use me as an emotional crutch to get through hard times.

 

It took me six months to tell her I loved her, and throughout the two weeks she was planning on dumping me she continued to say it back. The whole reason it took me six months was that I actually mean it when I say it...it's not just a nicety. I don't think I want to be with someone who only says it back so she doesn't leave me hanging.

[Xylitol]

Its a common mistake many people make , being completely desperatly in love with a girl who doesn't give a thing about you. The girl just thinks, hey here's a fool who will do all sorts of chores for me while the guy thinks he'll love in return. =BEEP= , no no, that's not how it works. A woman doesn't want a desperate guy that leans against her like a little boy asking for his mommy. A woman wants to lean against a man instead. Someone she can rely on. Second, a guy needs to have a life of his own, showing that he can live without her. A woman basically wants a guy with a future. This is vital for the next generation of kids.

 

Lessons for you.

 

Never go into a relationship expecting things to work out just because it concerns 'your case' reality is that you are not special nor is she. All this fantasy non-sense is just blindness caused by love.

 

Have a life of your own, because the reality of life is that a woman can pack her bags and leave any day, then what? Your on your own again.

 

Last but not least , don't hold it against yourself that this has happened, you can't know things like this in advance unless you informed yourself, which you should have done by now by reading this.

[Anonymous3]

Yeah well, this wasn't quite like that. There was a time when I truly believe she meant it, and I was by no means desperate.

 

As far as having a future, that is definitely not the issue...I'm not a social butterfly, I'll give you that one, but I own my home, and have had a job for the past year and a half that allows me to travel the world when I choose...most of the people I know my age are still in college.