MissBee09 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 My bf has a female friend whom i have become friends with myself who constantly calls and texts his phone. recently she came over at midnight to watch a show with him but she has cable in her home and the ability to catch the show at an earlier time. I had an issue with her coming over to his apt not only that late but alone! He thinks i'm overreacting but i think its disrespectful to his home and our relationship to let another woman come over that time of night. Am i being a prude is it a reasonable time when a single woman should not be entering a man in a relationship's home? Link to comment
sunshine1 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I don't think you overreacting at all, however there will be some people here who think there's nothing wrong with males and females hanging out at any time as long as you trust your partner. In my opinion, it should be up to your comfort level and if you don't feel it is appropriate - then it probably isn't. I would not like it either. Link to comment
Keyman Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Yes I would have issues if my g/f had a male friend that came and hung out at all hours of the night when I wasn't there. I have no issues with a people in a relationship having single friends of the opposite sex, but at that time of the night and at his home, I'd be putting my foot down...Not acceptable. I'd be getting the impression that she was after something more than just hanging out if she is always ringing and texting. Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 i agree with keyman!!! just why is she coming over at all hours of the night, and why is she constantly texting him and such???? Link to comment
Maya_A Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I absolutely second sunshine 1. I also agree with Keyman that she seems a little too invested in your bf to be communicating so often, on top of going over so late at night. It's odd to go over at midnight & I would not like it if it were my bf, nor would I do it vice versa with a guy, out of respect for him/us. It takes things into another "feeling" or energy place other than cordial at that time. Link to comment
Kumatora Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Yes I would have issues if my g/f had a male friend that came and hung out at all hours of the night when I wasn't there. I have no issues with a people in a relationship having single friends of the opposite sex, but at that time of the night and at his home, I'd be putting my foot down...Not acceptable. I'd be getting the impression that she was after something more than just hanging out if she is always ringing and texting. Bingo! I'm not insecure, but her actions cross the line. Her constantly calling and texting on a daily basis would be inappropriate. I would have a few words with my bf if I saw any of that crap going on. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 No you are not being irrational on this at all. I would be highly upset as well if my bf were to do this. There should be no reason for her to be over his house so late in the evening. Why don't you ask your bf how he would feel if you were to do that with one of your guy friends? Link to comment
Doc Blaze Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 sad to say...sounds like a booty call...anyone of my guy friends who have girls over their house that late unless they are dating them is for you know what...not saying everyone is like this but basically all my friends are. Link to comment
kenneth1975 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Yeah this is not a good sign at all. Trust your gut instincts. It just gives the appearance that something fishy is going on behind closed doors if she's coming over late at night. Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 and you know, even if she was coming over frequently in the middle of the day, i would find that suspicious as well. i mean, why does she have to keep coming over? i have male friends who are just friends, but i'm not over at their places all the time! Link to comment
reyes84 Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 It's ironic but I have a similar female friend issue that I just posted. I feel the exact same way. Personally I feel it's a little inappropriate for someone other than your significant other to be hanging around your bf's place so late at night. Even if there's nothing going on he and the girl should respect your feelings and know that it hurts you. Link to comment
MissBee09 Posted October 2, 2009 Author Share Posted October 2, 2009 Thank you all for your responses. I am taking it all into consideration. I just didn't want to believe that I was being irrational for having those feelings because apparently I seem insecure according to him. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 Thank you all for your responses. I am taking it all into consideration. I just didn't want to believe that I was being irrational for having those feelings because apparently I seem insecure according to him. Nope, you are not being irrational at all. Your feelings are pretty much justified. Link to comment
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