Tatania83 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Hello, I know this would seem very typical problem but i really don't know what to do. Lately, my bf is on phone most of the times and as i call and find waiting on his line for hours sometimes and at midnight too! I try to believe that he is not cheating on me but it's really hard to do so. As i ask him who is he talkin to he keeps tellin me that hes talkin to one of his friends and that he has a big issue so it needs long discussion blah blah. This friend i don't even know. I really don't know what to say to him when he gives such excuses. I don't wanna sound like accusing him. and i can't prove it at the same time. Maybe it's really his friend but it's been a long time now and when i ask him whats the problem he says its private. Besides, i find him not wanting to talk to me a lot like before and all in a bad mood. Is it obvious that he is cheating on me? or is it just me making assumptions? What should do? or say to him? please give me advice i don't wanna break up with him! Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 I can't speak for him, but pretty much every guy I have ever met in my life DON'T spend hours on the phone chatting to a guy... Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 I can't speak for him, but pretty much every guy I have ever met in my life DON'T spend hours on the phone chatting to a guy... I hate talking on the phone...absolutely hate it. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 How big of a problem could his friend have that they have to talk for hours and hours. i know people with serious issues and they don't want to talk for hours on the phone. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 How big of a problem could his friend have that they have to talk for hours and hours. i know people with serious issues and they don't want to talk for hours on the phone. yeah, sounds pretty fishy. Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 is your boyfriend still asking you out and wanting to see you? Link to comment
Ac143 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 he is 35 am 26 Well I asked because I thought maybe he was in high school or something...But 35 & chatting on the phone that long with a friend is very unusual. I gotta agree with everyone else, I never met a guy that even likes to talk on the phone more then 15mins, the only time a guy spent tons of time on the phone with me was the beginning stages of a relationship. I would be suspicious too. Do you guys see eachother a lot? Link to comment
Tatania83 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 no he always says hes tired Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 no he always says hes tired no good. no good at all. something is definitely not right. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Have you talked to him about the status of your relationship? Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 no he always says hes tired see, that to me is suspicious. ok, so say he's tired. you two can still watch a DVD together and cuddle on the couch. there are plenty of activities you can do that don't involve going out on the town or going mountain biking or whatnot. if he's not making time for you, and he's suddenly unavailable because of this big "problem" his male friend is having, it sounds like a bad sign. Link to comment
SRTtoZ Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 I ONLY chat for hours on end with girls on the phone, (my GF). NEVER EVER EVER have I spoken to a guy for hours*. EVRRRRRRRRR Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 How long have you been together? Link to comment
Tatania83 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 for four years .. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 for four years .. Wow & he wont tell you what him and his "friend" are talking about. You need to have a serious talk with him. Link to comment
XxJustMexX Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 for four years .. And you still live apart? That's a bigger concern than the phone problem. Which one of you has commitment issues? I would guess him... that's the problem I'd be focusing on. Link to comment
Tatania83 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 I can't face him if he lies to me cuz i don't have any proof. and i don't wanna accuse him of talkin to a girl cuz this would just ruin the relationship between us. we were fine but the last two weeks he became different. His mobile sometimes is not on waiting but his home line is busy busy busy and when i call his mobile he doesn't answer. Then he calls me back and his home line is suddenly not busy. when i ask him were you talkin on home line? he says no it might be his brother or someone else. He always has an excuse and i can't seem to face him and tell him that he is lying to me Link to comment
Tatania83 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 we never talk about marriage actually. Link to comment
Tatania83 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 Is my topic too boring that i got not much responses i really need you guys Link to comment
Casanova4life Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 he is 35 any kids on his sideor even your side? what is his marital/relationship history? where did you guys meet/ who made the first move? Link to comment
Tatania83 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 He is divorced and has no kids. am not married. We met at work we were just friends and he made the first move Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 What else is going on? He is always on the phone and is too tired to see you, it sounds pretty bad to me. Anything else you can think of? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 the longest my calls are, are about 15 minutes. and i'm rarely on the phone. the only time i've ever been on the phone for a long time was trying to work through a problem with a gf when we cannot meet face to face. i'm a guy. he's either a gabby gay dude or he's cheating or doesn't want to talk to you. i'm sorry, but i don't think this is good. Link to comment
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