tom1607307597 Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 I've been using Okcupid for at least a year but I've maybe messaged 5 girls on there. My friends tell me I should message more of them but I always feel I need these awesome pictures of me before I can even start messaging a girl. I'm don't feel like a very photogenic person though, so more of half of the pictures I'm in look bad when I see them. This should be mentioned since I have friends who sometimes say otherwise when they see pictures of me, it's probably just a reflection of my self esteem. So if you're not very photogenic how do you get decent pictures without having to go to a pro photographer? Link to comment
ay0_x Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 There's not really much you can do if you're that bad at taking good photos of yourself except go to a pro. If there's any photos of you at a party or something, and you're with your friends & you look good, you could try that. Do you have any friends who have any make up/styling/photography experience? They could help you out. Link to comment
hers Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Being photogenic is subjective I think. You think your pictures look bad but someone else may think they look great. You don't need to get someone to take awesome pictures of you. You don't need to take pictures with your cell phone in your bathroom mirror (pleaase don't do that). Like ayo said, post pictures of you at a party (not with a funnel in your mouth) or a picture of you and your mom from mothers day. Whatever. They don't have to be a huge deal. You're probably overthinking it. Link to comment
ay0_x Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 You could post your photo here if you wanted. We could give you an unbiased opinion, or you could just ask a female friend who is secure enough in your friendship to not be afraid of hurting your feelings. Link to comment
amipushy Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Don't go to a pro, those type of pics are AWFUL. Link to comment
hers Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 I dated a guy from okc once who got pro pictures done for his profile. When I found out he did it just for that, I sort of thought him a douche... Link to comment
waveseer Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Get a friend to take a whole roll of pictures of you in your favorite clothing. Try indoors and out with different backgrounds and change clothing in between. Be silly in some and have fun! Then let your friend choose the best ten and you choose five of those. I am so dating myself, "whole roll", lol. I mean 24 pictures. Link to comment
kevinm Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 I believe people do indeed place far too much emphasis on pictures. Sure sure, they are fun to look at, but really I pretty much just put up whatever. I try to show different sides of me... looking scruffy and looking decent. I try to provide the spectrum of me. -Kevin Link to comment
hers Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Kevinm has good pictures of himself on his profile (he's very cute!). His pictures look natural and happy and I'd write back to him if he wrote (provided it's more than one line ) You don't have to do posed pictures. Be natural and happy and you'll be golden. Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted August 9, 2009 Author Share Posted August 9, 2009 I dated a guy from okc once who got pro pictures done for his profile. When I found out he did it just for that, I sort of thought him a douche... Ouch... yeah I wasn't planning on getting a pro photographer because a dating pic should give someone an idea of what you usually look like on an average day. I've considered getting it done before though. I used to be more accepting of pics of myself until recently... it had something to do with a 14-yr old girl calling me a pizza face lol. Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted August 9, 2009 Author Share Posted August 9, 2009 I believe people do indeed place far too much emphasis on pictures. Sure sure, they are fun to look at, but really I pretty much just put up whatever. I try to show different sides of me... looking scruffy and looking decent. I try to provide the spectrum of me. -Kevin Where can I find some of these pictures of you? They sound really good from smudders said. You could post your photo here if you wanted. We could give you an unbiased opinion, or you could just ask a female friend who is secure enough in your friendship to not be afraid of hurting your feelings. There should be a pic of me in my profile, I'm the farthest on the right. Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I don't think you've got anything to lose by putting pix of you online. I mean, if you've only messaged 5 people then you can't really tell if that many girls are interested or not because you haven't tried. Sometimes b&w photos look better but I like to see a colour pic to get a good impression of the guy. I also like it to be close up so I can get a good view of his face - not too far away. Link to comment
hers Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 why don't you post some pictures of yourself on this thread, OP, and we can tell you what we think? Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 Here's some recent ones... Link to comment
hers Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 They're too candid so they're not very appealing. Try smiling and looking like you're having fun for the pictures on a dating site. Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 i figured, i should smile more when i get these taken. otherwise how do they look? Link to comment
hers Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 They look like random pictures someone got of you. There's nothing really appealing of them. You look bored in all of them. Link to comment
amipushy Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 I think the third one is good, the middle one makes you look about 10, and the first one you look miserable. Link to comment
Di_ya2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 i like the first pic (smiling would have made it better), 2nd you look bored, 3rd you look stiff. Smile more, do some weird crazy poses Theya re all indoor pics, try taking some outside. Link to comment
savignon Posted August 11, 2009 Share Posted August 11, 2009 I think the fact that you're not smiling is no good. If someone's going to respond to a picture, you want it to look like you enjoy life and are generally fun to be around. I agree that you look bored and unhappy in those pictures (and in the middle one you look very young) Get some friends together and do a photo shoot of some sort. That's what my girlfriends and I did when we dated online. Link to comment
Reeling Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Get a digital camera with a delay timer, take the picture over & over until you get what you're looking for. Here's some recent ones... You need better posture. Your shoulders are always leaning forward and scrunched together, and you're hunched over a bit. Your shoulders should be at your side, a little bit back, and you should make as much space as possible between your ears and shoulders. Elongate your neck. Just practice proper posture in front of a mirror. Certain types of bad posture are taken as a sign of low self-esteem. Instead, take up space with your posture, and have proper form. Link to comment
Jpo Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Take a picture of yourself in a bathroom mirror with your shirt off. If you really want the ladies, throw in a 'magnum' pose from Zoolander. I promise you will have 100 interested women within an hour. Seriously, I agree with the other posters. Try to look happier, and get a delay timer camera. Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 Get a digital camera with a delay timer, take the picture over & over until you get what you're looking for. I use alot of that for most of my pictures. The last 2 i posted are exceptions from when i was hanging out with a few friends. Ahh... let me see if i can post at least one where i'm actually smiling. I'll have to upload one from my camera. Take a picture of yourself in a bathroom mirror with your shirt off. If you really want the ladies, throw in a 'magnum' pose from Zoolander. I promise you will have 100 interested women within an hour. Does that really work lol? Maybe if I had a sculpted body... Since everyone said something about be being bored I wanted to point out that's how I usually am. I only really smile when I'm around friends and people I know well. I guess you could also say my life is pretty boring, that would explain why I look like that. Link to comment
hers Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Does that really work lol? Maybe if I had a sculpted body... no, don't do that mirror thing. only meathead douchebags do that when they want to impress girls! you're better off looking like you're having fun! JPO was kidding anyway (he put that part in white for some reason!) Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 Ok here's two where I'm actually smiling. The full-body shot is the one i'm using right now for okcupid. Link to comment
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