Post Break-up Sexual Frustrations

[teerex85]

My girlfriend and I have been broken up for 1 month now, but I haven't actually had sex for 2 months. Her and I have been pretty busy that last month we were together and the only (and last) time I saw her, she was on her period and we couldn't do anything.

 

Anyways, all I can think about lately is the sex we had. My ex was a very sexually open girl and we've done it quite often. Nowadays, anytime I read anything about sex (or maybe even watch porn), I think of her. Then bad thoughts creep in and I start thinking about her and her new boyfriend doing it.

 

I have no idea how to deal with this. I'm not the type of guy to go out and sleep with random people. I like the connection you have when you're exclusive with someone. However, I just don't see myself having another girlfriend right now. I'm still working on moving-on and losing all the feelings I have for her.

 

The funny thing is, this is the first time I feel like this. But this is probably because she was the first girl I've actually fell in love with. Any previous relationships I've had before her only lasted a few months at best. In comparison, my relationship with her lasted 3 years. Maybe I'm feeling like this because I've had so much sex with her compared to before I've met her.

 

Any advice?

[annie24]

mastrubate, lol.

 

sorry to hear about the breakup. but it's good that you have feelings and interest in sex, that's a healthy thing. time will help you a lot. i think you will be sad for a while, but then wind up meeting a girl you find really interesting and you like her, and things will progress from there....

[teerex85]

Masturbation isn't helping. I end up missing my ex tremendously since I'm obviously thinking about sex when I do it. Maybe I miss the connection we used to have.

[vanessa23]

It's not really about the sex but about the relationship you miss and the connection you had with her. You obviously miss her alot and wish you could share in the love you feel with her through sex which one of the main ways men connect to the women they love. You aren't over her yet and you have to think of ways to move on or get her back if thats possible. If you think about her while looking at porn, you are still in love with her.

[buckley]

do you feel like you need one last time with her for closure? perhaps because you guys didnt really have sex before breaking up you feel like you missed on that 'last' time.

 

do you feel like you would want to sleep with her again?

 

my ex at moment is saying he wants one last time for closure. i dunno, just a thought

[Day_Walker]

Since you dont see yourself having casual sex, there doesnt seem to be an option for you at this point. I think that you need to heal emotionally and when you are able to get your ex out of mind mind when sex comes up then you will be ready to engage in sexual activity and have a gf.

[teerex85]

do you feel like you need one last time with her for closure? perhaps because you guys didnt really have sex before breaking up you feel like you missed on that 'last' time.

 

do you feel like you would want to sleep with her again?

 

my ex at moment is saying he wants one last time for closure. i dunno, just a thought

 

It's funny because I did think about "break-up sex" around the time we broke up. Perhaps I do feel like I want that one last time. But wouldn't I long for more afterwards as well? Not that it matters now that she's with someone else.

 

I've had some serious thoughts about hooking up with the first attractive girl that shows me attention when I go out with my friends though haha. I just don't think it will help me heal very well. Thanks for all the replies.