Dreams of a woman I thought I moved from?

[ajaxajax]

Hi all

 

Just one week ago, I told a woman who I thought was stringing me(despite her appearing to have feelings for me as deep as I had for her)that I cannot contact her anymore. From there, coping just got easier...

 

But then, just last night:

I had two separate dreams of her in just that night. I thought that with one, I could shake off. But, two...I couldn't sleep for two hours in case I dreamed of her again I wonder...

 

Is this normal for someone in my situation to have dreams of someone you dealt with...or is it something really strange?

 

Thanks.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

People have dreams of others in their past who had some kind of positive or negative influence. Dreams are just the body's way of dealing with disappointments, fears and stress. Dreaming about someone who has hurt you is just releasing frustration from your mind.

[ajaxajax]

Um...I'm not that sure it is a release. If I dream about her again, would that be the opposite of a release?

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Um...I'm not that sure it is a release. If I dream about her again, would that be the opposite of a release?

 

Yes..because you are just coming to terms with your disappointment and pain....the body and mind is healing. I often had dreams of my late grandmother the first year after she died. What you are experiencing is coming to terms with the demise of your hopes and dreams regarding this woman...you are coming to terms with it in your dreams.

[COtuner]

Yes, CAD is correct. I have dreams often about people who have caused me some sort of emotional stress, whether romantic, at work, friends, parents.... your brain seems to have this urge to process the suppressed emotions in the form of imagery as far as I can tell.

 

Just last week I had two dreams in a row of a guy I've been wanting very badly just a couple days before I was due to go to a party he would be at. I think my brain was preparing my body for things to not work out so well, whereas during the day I was all hopped up on hope and adrenaline and couldn't deal with the possibility of rejection.

[ajaxajax]

Hmmm...interesting. That didn't turn out well, I think, huh?

 

In my dreams, too, would what the girl do in those dreams matter...or would just her mere presence be an important sign in them?

[SilverManic]

When you sleep it is the time when the brain is processing things that it did not have time to process in the day. Dreaming can be triggered from something that your brain couldn't process in the daytime and so it's coming out in REM. I've often had dreams of ex's years later I wouldn't worry about it, it is your brains way of helping you cope in the Long run.

[ajaxajax]

For now, I think every time I have her back in my head, it'd just hurt

[SilverManic]

Thats because the wound is fresh but you'll get over it eventually. This is your bodys way of 'healing a broken heart' it also might be because your so concrened that your dreaming about her.

[ajaxajax]

Concerned? In what way?

 

Of course I still feel for her, but really, for me, enough is enough. I thought that if I get over her while I'm awake, she'd not reappear in my sleep.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Every once in a while I have dreams of someone I knew back in my twenties who was a real jerk. I was interested in him, he was interested in me but emotionally he never left high school and he was very unkind to me. I have no interest in him, couldn't care less about him..but every so often this guy pops into my dreams in a very neutral way. Then I wake up, say to myself "that was bizarre" and then forget about it and move on with my day. I have had dreams of other nasty people from work places or whatever. It doesn't really mean anything.

[SilverManic]

Your concerned about not dreaming about her which is going to make you more likely too dream about her. It's a vicious circle. It'll fade with time. Try not to worry about it too much although it's easier said then done.