Going out on Valentine's Day with New Person

[tattoobunnie]

What is everyone's thoughts on going out on Valentine's Day with someone you've just started seeing?

 

Is it best to pretend the day doesn't exist...or does pretending it doesn't exist set the vibe for the forward footing of the relationship? For example, maybe 5 or 6 dates, should people expect a date?

[Scorpion Fury]

I would not expect to spend it with someone unless we're exclusive

[Cognitive_Canine]

If we were exclusive, I'd expect to at least recognize the day. I would not expect a present or going out that. But, doesn't hurt to at least get her/him chocolate (unless they are allergic, of course)

[tattoobunnie]

Ah...got it. I've been taken out in a past by a bunch of dudes whom I just started seeing, so I wasn't sure what the general consensus was...this new person though, liked in "High School" terms told me he really liked me, but probably not best getting my hopes up.

[Stinkweed]

What about someone you've only seen once or twice and they ask you out on that day without being all "will you be my valentine" but just making it sound like a regular date and they happen to get you flowers but don't make a big deal about it (so they did it just cause it's a coincidence you guys are going out on Valentine's day)?

[Cognitive_Canine]

What about someone you've only seen once or twice and they ask you out on that day without being all "will you be my valentine" but just making it sound like a regular date and they happen to get you flowers but don't make a big deal about it (so they did it just cause it's a coincidence you guys are going out on Valentine's day)?

 

Sounds fine to me.

[tattoobunnie]

Flowers are always a nice touch for a date

[Batya33]

I went on a fifth date once for vday - and we had seen each other two days earlier (v-day was on a monday that year) - he called me last minute to say that he realized we should see each other for v-day - he chose a restaurant near his apartment and i assumed he would invite me up (I had declined to go to his place two days earlier because it was very late and I just wasn't ready and didn't like the impression it would give to go upstairs at midnight).

 

He took me for a romantic dinner, told me I looked amazing and didn't invite me up which was odd. the next week we had our last date and the date itself was distant/cold. oh well.

 

I also went on a first date on v-day - he gave me M&Ms and a single rose which I thought was really sweet. we went out a few more times.

 

I think it's fine as long as you don't have high expectations about the evening.

[pendrag0n]

I don't think there's anything wrong with going out on V-Day with a new person. Just as long as it's not really over the top. Simplicity is probably the best bet, in my opinion. I've never been out on V-Day but I have gotten flowers once and they were sweet.

[jpmartin]

same situation as mine. if we go out on V day, it'll be our 4th date.

I'm guessing he's seeing other people too, should I assume I'm on top of his list if he ask me to have dinner on V-day? or should I assume I'm not if he doesn't?

[Stinkweed]

What about asking a girl out for the first time for a V-day's dinner? I might do that, seeing as I suspect I won't still be talking to the girl I've already gone out with next week (or this week for that matter), lol. Would a rose still be in order just cause of the day, or would it be too much?

[ghost69]

i'd go on a date with a new person if i really really connected with them on previous dates. i would not buy them anything.