She Initiated Contact. How Do I Continue Getting Her Back?

[ryanbo29]

Before you roll your eyes, let me say that Ive thought this thru.

 

I went out with a girl for 9 months.. I initially cheated on my girlfriend with her, then left her for this woman..I fell madly in love with her. But she was never able to get past it all the way.

 

Eventually, she dumped me.. This was 6 months ago. Well about 3 weeks she IMed me to see how I was doing, asked me how I was.. took a couple jabs then did it again 2 weeks ago. I ended both conversations on my terms, and she hasn't contacted me since.

 

What would my next move be? Do I call her and just act super happy with my life (as I did on my IMs). I figure at some point I'm going to have to contact her, since she's contacted me twice in 2 weeks before.

 

I know all of the funny answers.. like 'your next move is to move on'. And to some extent I have, but I'd after dating others it only shows me how compatible we really were.

 

Thanks for the Help!

 

Ryan

[guber88]

..I think your next move is to move on..

[Beec]

If you contact her again, you should be very vague about your life, but try to make her feel happy because you contacted her, not just because you called but more because you can offer her soemthing that makes her feel special. Be very aloof about your intentions, but also be very firm in admitting your faults and how they are corrected.

[Michael2]

Want to win her back. Guess what, its truly not up to YOU, but here.

 

To be blunt, you messed up real bad, and she is making you pay for your mistakes.

 

It is her final decision to decide if she wants you in her life. I suggest you continue to give her space, which means no contact. Do not call her, if she calls you, act as if life is your oyster.

[ryanbo29]

She made me pay while we were together to be honest, occasionally. It's been six months.

 

I did let her contact me first, twice.. through IM. But its been about 3 weeks now and she hasn't said a peep.

 

I ended the conversations once they got to the point where they could get heated.. Since she's IMed and initiated twice, is it my turn to call or IM?

 

Or do I wait for her again?

 

thank you

 

Ryan

[Beec]

That's up to whether you now how to play her when and if you contact her. If you really want her back, you need to do it sometime, but you should know what you want to do when you talk. What should you want to do in your conversations with her, depends on you and her, which you need to look at to decide what kind of seduction techniques to use.

[Stingseed]

Hello Guys

 

I am heart broken. I need advice with ex-girlfriiend the no-contact of sort and stuff

 

This is what happen. I meet her year and half ago. We fell deeply in love well the usual as you guys may know. At the end of January she comes out saying that she has done something horrible and that i am going to hate for it. (Don't get her wrong she loves me very much). Well anyways she came out saying that she cheated on me with some guy she knew for some monhs. Well the usual happen she said she was sorry, and that she still loved me. The thing is that she fell so deeply in love with me that she never had the chance to meet other people thereforeeee was one of the reasons for getting close to this guy. The other reason is that she said I was to jealous and not financially stable. Which I agree. I know that I must show her that these faults are corrected so that she can remember the guy she fell in love with and remember the good times we had. but the thing is this other guy she is seeing is getting in the way ( ohh what to do what to do?).

 

Don't get me wrong even though she is seeing this guy to this day she still calls me reason being she need to talk to me. Somtimes she just calls my office is as if she is afraid I will not answer the cell. I guess cause I tried to play the no-contact thing but at the most I last is about 2 or 3 days me being the one to returns her calls( the dreaded call back it is). I asked if she wnas to lose me for good. her reply was no never that I am not going to lose her. I asked her if the reason she is still telling she loves me and wants me in any way a soft way of telling me she does not want to see me no more? she says no. I am saying it cuae i mean it. I asked her Are you having a difficult time in finding the words to let me go for good and thereforeeee the reason you keep calling me? she said no. I call cause I wanna talk to you. These are some questions I have asked her there are 2 ro 3 more which I will post later. The thing is that she calls me, work and cell and when we do talk we still some of the nice little cute conversations we always have had and I do still make her laugh and whatnot. but her is the twister. I have asked her to go out and she always says maybe and never does. I tell her if she loves me, calls me, tells me she don't wanna lose me, then way can't we go out to dinner or concerts. her response is she is not ready yet, and apologizes for putting me through all of this. She is still very open with me even telling me she was afraid she might be pregant with his baby which it turns out she is not(thank god)at one point she told me she is not to serious with the guy she is seeing and that he is not serious with her cause they have only have been seeing each other for 3 months 2 months of it being behind my back. but that she still needs to see other people which drives me crazy, but I don't show here that emotion I just try to talk about it and tell her that I love her and ask why is she adding this confusing to herself and to comeback to me. I know I must be nagging her to death with all the questions I have asked her, but the reason I do it is to make sure she still loves me, does not want to lose me and most important is to make sure she is not being nice to me just to not hurt my feeling anymore. 2 weeks ago I convinced her not to go another date, and went on further I said that we should seriously try to work things out, and that I am the only man she needs. guess what she said? that i am right and that we should try, but 2 days later she changed her mind saying that even though she is seeing someone that there is another person that she wants to date thereforeeee saying she need to see other people not to mention that. This has been going for 4 weeks now everytime I seem to get close it seems I am getting further (what am I doing wrong?).

 

Well guys I do want to get back with her very badly I am deeply in love with her but I have made some mistakes in doing so. Can you help me? She is with someone but not in love, she feels she need to date but she still calls me, does tthe no-contact rule apply here? please reply......