exploding head Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 He's being a typical guy. You are overthinking it. Not cocky or arrogant. Of course, it is also typical for us to think that a month would be enough time. He's missing you though. Guys don't say stuff like that unless they are panicked and trying to show they are caring, trying to re-kindle romantic feelings. Just my two cents. Link to comment
gundr1kr Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 He's being a typical guy. You are overthinking it. Not cocky or arrogant. Of course, it is also typical for us to think that a month would be enough time. He's missing you though. Guys don't say stuff like that unless they are panicked and trying to show they are caring, trying to re-kindle romantic feelings. Just my two cents. Really? It is typical for a guy to think that a month is long enough to get over a relationship? OK...I guess I was wrong. You think he is missing me? Do you it possible that he is just missing me as a friend though? Link to comment
exploding head Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Im not sure what he may be thinking. You should just ask him when the time is right. On another note, I replied to me ex's holiday message today. I figured i might as well. Just simple. "Thank you for the greeting, sorry about the late response" Link to comment
gundr1kr Posted January 19, 2009 Author Share Posted January 19, 2009 Im not sure what he may be thinking. You should just ask him when the time is right. On another note, I replied to me ex's holiday message today. I figured i might as well. Just simple. "Thank you for the greeting, sorry about the late response" Yeah I guess you are right. Since I told him not to contact me, I havent heard from him. I think I am moving on. I am realizing how wrong it is to miss someone that has treated you this way.... Maybe some day I will ask him but not now. When did you get the holiday message? That was a good response though because it was short and simple. What made you respond to the message? Link to comment
exploding head Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 I got the message a month ago. I guess I wanted to test the waters. Link to comment
exploding head Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 Interesting. I just found out today that she moved into her parents place for a while. (They went away on a long trip for a year) Apparently, she's pretty upset about it. When i found out, I felt an odd sense of excitement as well as a real sense of caring. I don't want her to hurt. Anyway, We shall see if she responds. Link to comment
gundr1kr Posted January 22, 2009 Author Share Posted January 22, 2009 Interesting. I just found out today that she moved into her parents place for a while. (They went away on a long trip for a year) Apparently, she's pretty upset about it. When i found out, I felt an odd sense of excitement as well as a real sense of caring. I don't want her to hurt. Anyway, We shall see if she responds. I am a little confused. How do you know this? Are you still talking to her? What is she upset about - her parents going away for a year??? How long has it been since you responded? Since I told my ex I needed space, he hasnt contacted me which has actually been a relief. Link to comment
exploding head Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 I caved in and read her LJ. Shes upset about her parents going away on a long trip. I think there's more to it. She wouldnt just up and move out. I contacted her a couple days ago. No response. We shall see. Link to comment
exploding head Posted January 25, 2009 Share Posted January 25, 2009 Update: she contacted me and said she wants to meet and talk. Still playing it cool. Link to comment
gundr1kr Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 Update: she contacted me and said she wants to meet and talk. Still playing it cool. Congrats! Do you know what you will be talking about? Your past relationship? When are you planning on meeting? Link to comment
exploding head Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Not sure. We shall see. She did say that she would love to talk, so thats a good sign. Link to comment
gundr1kr Posted January 28, 2009 Author Share Posted January 28, 2009 Not sure. We shall see. She did say that she would love to talk, so thats a good sign. Good luck exploding head...any updates? Link to comment
exploding head Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 I told her to give me a ring whenever she wants. Still waiting. Link to comment
Prisoner Posted February 1, 2009 Share Posted February 1, 2009 Kundr1kr After reading your post I realized that i'm in a similar situation with your ex. I know you posted so you could get answers but I wanted ask you for advice. I dated my ex for three years. We broke up, I moved away, then 8 months later moved back. Since I moved me back we've had a lot of contact, phone calls, she invited me to her company christmas party - then asked if she was going to come to mine, dinner, afternoons at the dog park, me staying at her place b/c she felt scared, taking her to concerts, fixing stuff at the apartment, cooking dinner for after she got fired, coming to help her with a flat tire, etc. On the day of the flat tire she told me she wanted no contact, despite the fact that I we were having dinner the next day. Oh-- I forgot to mention that she is in a relationship. Essentially, I was happily doing all the boyfriend leg-work for her f--king boyfriend. I can see now that was providing all the emotional support. I was happy to do it because I wasn't dating anyone. She knew/knows that I'll wait around for her. She says that she's moved on, but I'm having a real hard time believing her. From your perspective, is it best to do no contact or little contact (phone call -- weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, never???) I was going to send some flowers, but think that is a bad move -- do you concur?? Any advice???? Link to comment
gundr1kr Posted February 1, 2009 Author Share Posted February 1, 2009 Hi Prisoner - As you know I was asking advice because I didnt know what to do in the same situation that you are in. I will give you my advice but I am in the same situation and I dont know how much it will work in your situation. My ex has CONTINUED to contact me even after I have told him five times that I didnt want him to contact me. As of late, I have completely dropped off the face of the earth to him because when he sends me emails, I delete them with no response and when he sends text messages I deleted the as well with no response. He contiues to contact me but never says he wants to get back together with me (at this point I wouldnt take him back anyway). I personally believe that you need to go no contact with your ex. This is just based on my previous experiences. I believe you ex is taking you for granted. She knows you will be there, even when she is in a relationship with someone else. SERIOUSLY. Dont let her walk away. You can have no contact with her still knowing right now that you want to be with her. I personally believe that until they come to you and distinctly say that they want to retry things with you, you should continue to have no contact. I believe you will have respect for yourself and she will have respect for you. So yes, I would say dont call, dont answer and certainly dont send flowers. Link to comment
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