Should I be mad...

[JoJo90814]

I had a date with a guy tonight and he just called me at 3:30pm and told me he had to cancel because he forgot he had to pick up family from the airport. I mean couldnt he have called me earlier in the day? Picking up family from the airport is a pretty set and important thing to "just" remember.

[julioiglesia]

you can be mad and understanding.

 

mad: if he purposely don't want to see you

 

understanding if he really forgot.

 

straight enough answer right? lol

 

if i were him i could make the cake and eat it too by picking up my family and postpone the date like 2 hours later and still see you but those things only happen in fairy tales.

 

I say you shouldn't come into any conclusion but you should talk aobut it and how it damn hurts ;( because it'll build up later like cancer and every time he refuses last minute you'll have that grudge like feeling. so get it out early and if he deals with it maturely he is a keeper and you know he is akeeper but if aint then glad you found out early than when you are 2 years in.

[amipushy]

Hate to say it but it smells like a cowcrap excuse to me.

[hmdreamer7]

Did he say anything about rescheduling the date?

[JoJo90814]

Yeah he wants to reschedule the date till next weekend (we live an hour apart). I just think he couldve told me earlier in the day.

[COtuner]

Guys seem to forget this stuff.... I had someone run out of the room in the middle in a panic that he had an exam the next day and it turned out to all be true.

[COtuner]

Just had a positive thought.... maybe he was thinking about you so much his family slipped his mind?

[hmdreamer7]

Hey, it could happen. I forget important things like that all the time, lol! But I wouldn't say anything to him, let the date go and if he's a stand up guy and actually follows through with rescheduling the date, at least give him another chance. If he gives another last minute excuse, ESP. since it's been scheduled a week from now, then I'd let him go.

[BrokenLisa]

I agree, no reason to be mad, it was the first date after all. Leave it completely to him to re-schedule. He will call back if he's interested. When he does, you can mention you will go on one condition: that he buys the dinner AND drinks ( or the first 7 rounds if it's just drinks lol)to make up for it. Jokingly of course.

[JoJo90814]

It wasn't the first date- It was the second. HE didnt sound apologetic- he sounded like it was no big deal that he was canceling.

[BrokenLisa]

oh, hmmmm well obviously it's not the greatest situation, and yes he was inconsiderate. did he pick up on you being annoyed on the phone? i'd still give him the benefit of doubt, and let him contact you from now on.

[JoJo90814]

did he pick up on you being annoyed on the phone?

 

No he left a message saying that he couldnt hang out because he forgot he had to p/u his family from the airport but wants to make plans for next weekend. I havent called him back yet.

[teren537]

honestly in my opinion - if he's blowing you off at the last minute on the second date, he's probably just making excuses. but hey - stranger things have happened. if he follows through on the reschedule i'd just forgive/forget. if you show anger toward him for missing only the 2nd date, it may come off as possessive and you may very well scare him off - especially if it's the first time he's ever rescheduled anything with you. (it's not like he's blown you off a number of times) If he misses the reschedule too, i'd let him go.

[servedcold]

Sorry to say, but his excuse sounds bogus. Picking people up at the airport is usually not an all evening event, and if he really wanted to see you, he would have suggested getting together a little later or would have offered an earlier reschedule than a whole week away. And yes, letting you know so late was rude and a red flag. Best wishes.

[Batya33]

I wouldn't like the nonchalance one bit but I might give him one more chance. I would suggest letting him call you again - no need to rush to call him after that kind of VM.

[JadedStar]

Yea one more chance, perhaps, but the excuse sounds very suspect.

[JoJo90814]

We live like 1 hour and 15 mins apart so I think he didnt want to drive. Im not going to call him, he can call me again and he is on shaky ground. Being dependable is VERY important to me.

[JadedStar]

I don't blame you at all....i am big on dependability as well and keeping commitments. Yeah, see if he calls again> The onus is on him at this point.

[servedcold]

Are you JoJo the pop singer by chance? If so I love your work, your videos always cheer me up while on the treadmill at the gym.